end the relationship..
You have to end it, find someone your age. At 35 he's moved from the fun but not young adult into the nearly middle aged adult. It will get more difficult for you, he will get a lot of flak for having such a young girlfriend to the extent that it could easily affect your social life and his work life plus at your age you need to be thinking about University/college. At your age now you are making decisions that will affect the rest of your life (education, career), he's already made them. If you make the wrong ones you will regret it for the rest of your life. I know girls who gave up on Uni because they were in love and he was going to be the man of their life.. it ended, they couldn't go to Uni and now at least one of them is in drug rehab and the other one I keep in touch with is a 34 year old waitress who basically flushed her life down the toilet. It's not right. End the relationship for your own sake.
put you nose back in the books and forget about the creep!
There's something wrong with the guy. You may feel 'mature,' but trust me, you're not. And a 35 year old who's 'in love' or 'infatuated' or whatever has problems. Probably serious insecurity and lack of social skills. You can't see that. That's why you interest him.<br />
Do what you want, but try to inject bit of rational brainpower into your emotions.
In the u.k college starts at 16. vocational qualification or an apprenticeship? And is free.university Starts at 18. Get it. And use birth countrol
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I do not believe that you are 16 and in college.
I do not believe you are educated in the schooling systems of other countries. I laugh at your unintelligence.
Don't listen to these idiots, I'm 27 and dating a 16 year old. I'm not a perv, she pursued me first and I struggled with the age difference at first. But eventually I gave up and realized age is just a number and love is love. She is very sweet and I care for her deeply and I know she feels the same way.
to be fair, age is just a number, and I know that's what you wanna hear, that's why you asked this question. In reality though, no one can decide what you wanna do but you. No one on here slagging your man off knows him or your relationship, but that could be the exact reason you need to be cautious (and men are men, and will have sexual desires whether you intend to have sex before marriage or not. Its mother nature were talking about). There's always two sides to any argument... weigh up what you feel. you don't need the opinion of others to decide what YOU want.
Run for the ******* hillz!! O_o Ok ok ok, I'll get serious, just watch yourself.
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WAIT. You are probably just infatuated with him. Give yourself time to let your brain catch up with your heart. When you are 36 he will be a geriatric 65 and ready to retire. Is that really the relationship you want.
okay, i'm 18 , i'm studying in a big university, and i think i've fall in love with a 30 yr old man, actually he's my department guidance councilor. I like him, and i discover that he likes me too. But i think we still have to wait, don't rush on everything, if he really loves you he will wait, remember though it sounds really chessy ., good things happen for those people who wait.
I met my boyfriend who was (26) when I was 16 in 2010, exactly after a huge breakup, wasn't really looking forward to dating anyone but at one event I met my future fiancée, (I'm 18 now , about to study fashion in Singapore ) when I first met him, he wansn't really what I say my type, he was shorter than me, I'm about 164 cm ( 5'5) but then he asked me out and he was such a gentle man , I became to start liking him ( a bit as I was cautios) on that very first date , I can actually see my future being with him, meaning to say he was the one for me , and I said " hmm maybe his not that bad" it turns I was right, every single time we be going on a date he will ask my mom for permission, my mom likes him so does my dad since both are geeks, it's been 3 years now I've dating him, age doesn't really stop you to like someone, but follow my advice what I did when I was ur age, get to know him better and don't make rash desicion , and if he really sincere and he gives u his trust you need to give back that trust too, I wish u luck my dear
I'm a 30 year old guy, so I'm close to seeing this from his perspective. Some considerations:<br />
All those people saying this guy's a creep or a dangerous predator, please learn your facts. In the UK (where msbee is), the age of consent is 16. Therefore, nothing illegal about this partnership.<br />
I know a couple. He is 35, she is 18. They are in one of the happiest relationships I've ever seen. Sure, they both know it could be very different in a few years and so they're not about to get married. Will it last? Who knows? Does it matter right now? Maybe, maybe not, but if it matters it's got nothing to do with his age.<br />
To msbee I say this: If you like the guy, if he makes you happy, etc. then there's nothing wrong with it. You're in no more danger with this guy than you are with a guy your own age. An older guy might try to do everything he can to get into your pants. So what? A younger guy will do that too. Just be sensible and cautious.<br />
If he says things like "I love you so much, I want to be with you forever", etc. then I'd be careful there too, but again no more careful than with a guy your own age.<br />
You say your'e in love with him. I question that in reality, because honestly at your age you have no idea what love really is. But that's ok. You don't have to at your age. Whatever this is, enjoy it for what it is. Again, no different to if he was 17.<br />
If you get to the point where you want to have sex with him, then again, I'd just say exercise the same sense and precautions you would if he was 17. Use protection!! Protect yourself physically. And protect yourself emotionally. In some ways I'd even venture to suggest he has more sexual experience than the average 17 year old guy who just wants to get off, and he'll probably treat you with more care and respect in bed than the average 17 year old guy. So in some ways, an older guy is better. But that's probably only a small consideration.<br />
Obviously, don't marry the guy... yet. But again not because he's 35, but because you're 16. You have a lot of growing up to do. So does anyone at 16. As with everything else I've said in this answer, I'd say the same thing if you were dating a 17 year old guy.<br />
There is only one consideration that I think is relevant: At his age he has more life experience, and therefore, if he has a hidden agenda or ulterior motive, he may be better skilled at manipulating you than a guy your own age would be. And you may not have the life experience required to see it before you get yourself into trouble. Ultimately, I think that's really the only relevant consideration. So don't be naive. Be careful.<br />
If you have any older friends you really trust but are also open minded enough to see past the age difference and evaluate the two of you as people, then seek their opinions of this guy and make use of their life experience.<br />
But otherwise, knock yourself out. You are of legal age to make this decision for yourself, and his age is
hmm... got cut off in the middle of my last sentence. So just to wrap that up properly...
But otherwise, knock yourself out. You are of legal age to make this decision for yourself, and his age is irrelevant.
Finding someone your age whom you can relate to will bring you a happier relationship. And I'm guessing this guy will lose his job/wife/freedom from jail if he went for you, so don't go for it. Yeah, that relationship would be a tad illegal, and I think you know that. Love is when you know someone so intimately you don't have to speak and they know what you mean, and vice versa. You're not in love, you have a crush or are infatuated.
Absolutely nothing!!! Anything else will land him in major trouble with your family or the law.
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Lol I'm late and the problem is probably solved already but it was interesting reading all the responses
so what happened? it had been months.. i used to be in the same situation like yours.. i thought i was in love.. but all there really was is sex.. STOP it if it havent ended yet. You might say youre in love right now, that he's the right guy, NO, you deserve someone better and trust me THERE IS.
I understand where you are coming from. I am also 16 and like a 33 year old man who sadly happens to be my manager. Its confusing and hard. in your case I would ignore what people say and go for the relationship, but not to fast. when your all done with highschool or college maybe take it a little more serious and if things are still amazing after university then go from there, just dont make any huge decisions while you are in school. school comes first no matter what if he is getting in your way then he doesnt really care for you. hope that helped a little. ~~^^
You cannot help it ..I realize this, and the reason that you cannot help it is because you are not physically finished maturing yet. Seriously, while you have the body of a mature female, the frontal lobe of your brain will not be finished maturing for several more years. You are supposed to fall in love easily now and become infatuated easily now, and make romantic mistakes and learn from them now, it's part of the human process..just know that any 35 year old man that has a serious romantic interest in a young woman your age, isn't a wise choice for someone your age, he lacks maturity (and he should be fully baked so perhaps it's his morals?) His age gives him a great advantage over you and he can easily manipulate you. I married a man that was 25 when I was 16...BAD IDEA, by the time I was 24 I was an entirely different person and of course the marriage dissolved then. Do what you have to do but don't be as silly as I was. Most of all do not confuse sexual feelings with falling in love, those are two different monkeys.
leave, you will get hurt, you have a whole life ahead of you .. you dont want to be a sincle mother