I'm a 16 year old girl, currently in college, soon 17. I've fallen in love with a 35 year old, what should i do?
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Posted by milander Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:11PM
end the relationship..
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Reply by msbee16 Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:42PM
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Reply by milander Jun 14th, 2012 at 1:21AM
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Posted by 5hadow Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:09PM
put you nose back in the books and forget about the creep!
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Posted by Sacron11 Jun 13th, 2012 at 8:23PM
There's something wrong with the guy. You may feel 'mature,' but trust me, you're not. And a 35 year old who's 'in love' or 'infatuated' or whatever has problems. Probably serious insecurity and lack of social skills. You can't see that. That's why you interest him.
Do what you want, but try to inject bit of rational brainpower into your emotions.
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Posted by Timb1 Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:16PM
In the u.k college starts at 16. vocational qualification or an apprenticeship? And is free.university Starts at 18. Get it. And use birth countrol
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Reply by Timb1 Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:14PM
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Reply by msbee16 Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:28PM
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Posted by Delilah5 Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:10PM
In a word? RUN. Do not pass go and do not collect 200 bucks. You'll get over it.
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Posted by fourthtot Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:09PM
I do not believe that you are 16 and in college.
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Reply by lostsoulswillfindtheirwayhome Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:17PM
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Reply by msbee16 Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:20PM
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Posted by kryptorchid Oct 10th, 2012 at 6:08PM
Don't listen to these idiots, I'm 27 and dating a 16 year old. I'm not a perv, she pursued me first and I struggled with the age difference at first. But eventually I gave up and realized age is just a number and love is love. She is very sweet and I care for her deeply and I know she feels the same way.
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Posted by TinkerBell12344 Jun 15th, 2012 at 6:03PM
to be fair, age is just a number, and I know that's what you wanna hear, that's why you asked this question. In reality though, no one can decide what you wanna do but you. No one on here slagging your man off knows him or your relationship, but that could be the exact reason you need to be cautious (and men are men, and will have sexual desires whether you intend to have sex before marriage or not. Its mother nature were talking about). There's always two sides to any argument... weigh up what you feel. you don't need the opinion of others to decide what YOU want.
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Posted by AaronMountainOfStrength Jun 13th, 2012 at 8:07PM
Run for the ******* hillz!! O_o Ok ok ok, I'll get serious, just watch yourself.
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Reply by msbee16 Jun 13th, 2012 at 8:27PM
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Reply by AaronMountainOfStrength Jun 13th, 2012 at 8:32PM
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Posted by FlauntTheImperfections Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:11PM
WAIT. You are probably just infatuated with him. Give yourself time to let your brain catch up with your heart. When you are 36 he will be a geriatric 65 and ready to retire. Is that really the relationship you want.
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Reply by msbee16 Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:32PM
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Posted by ashping095 Dec 31st, 2012 at 1:37PM
okay, i'm 18 , i'm studying in a big university, and i think i've fall in love with a 30 yr old man, actually he's my department guidance councilor. I like him, and i discover that he likes me too. But i think we still have to wait, don't rush on everything, if he really loves you he will wait, remember though it sounds really chessy ., good things happen for those people who wait.
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Posted by LonexWolf Jun 13th, 2012 at 8:50PM
Finding someone your age whom you can relate to will bring you a happier relationship. And I'm guessing this guy will lose his job/wife/freedom from jail if he went for you, so don't go for it. Yeah, that relationship would be a tad illegal, and I think you know that. Love is when you know someone so intimately you don't have to speak and they know what you mean, and vice versa. You're not in love, you have a crush or are infatuated.
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Posted by ProvidentialParlance Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:51PM
You are not in love, you are infatuated. It feels very potent and powerful. You think it's love and it's very close, but it's not. In this you cathect your partner, which is where you give lots of energy and focus on the object. You can cathect anything though, such as your car. If you cathect your car you'd probably wax it weekly, and keep it clean.
In time this will fade and you'll be met with a choice to truly love him or not. Because he's so much older I'd suggest you end it. You'll feel pain, and a lot of it, but it's better for you.
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Posted by whowasthatmaskedman Jun 13th, 2012 at 7:09PM
Absolutely nothing!!! Anything else will land him in major trouble with your family or the law.
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Posted by PreetiSandeep May 20th, 2013 at 6:46AM
I am a 19 year old boy and love for you please you love me this is my serious reguest please yes and no reply to my mobile no. 08146046886
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Posted by DDogs Feb 3rd, 2013 at 3:43AM
Lol I'm late and the problem is probably solved already but it was interesting reading all the responses
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Posted by bel1000x Dec 26th, 2012 at 11:43AM
so what happened? it had been months.. i used to be in the same situation like yours.. i thought i was in love.. but all there really was is sex.. STOP it if it havent ended yet. You might say youre in love right now, that he's the right guy, NO, you deserve someone better and trust me THERE IS.
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Posted by Minna0725 Dec 25th, 2012 at 7:46PM
I understand where you are coming from. I am also 16 and like a 33 year old man who sadly happens to be my manager. Its confusing and hard. in your case I would ignore what people say and go for the relationship, but not to fast. when your all done with highschool or college maybe take it a little more serious and if things are still amazing after university then go from there, just dont make any huge decisions while you are in school. school comes first no matter what if he is getting in your way then he doesnt really care for you. hope that helped a little. ~~^^
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Posted by hillbillycrone Dec 10th, 2012 at 2:33PM
You cannot help it ..I realize this, and the reason that you cannot help it is because you are not physically finished maturing yet. Seriously, while you have the body of a mature female, the frontal lobe of your brain will not be finished maturing for several more years. You are supposed to fall in love easily now and become infatuated easily now, and make romantic mistakes and learn from them now, it's part of the human process..just know that any 35 year old man that has a serious romantic interest in a young woman your age, isn't a wise choice for someone your age, he lacks maturity (and he should be fully baked so perhaps it's his morals?) His age gives him a great advantage over you and he can easily manipulate you. I married a man that was 25 when I was 16...BAD IDEA, by the time I was 24 I was an entirely different person and of course the marriage dissolved then. Do what you have to do but don't be as silly as I was. Most of all do not confuse sexual feelings with falling in love, those are two different monkeys.
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Posted by Koaru18 Nov 28th, 2012 at 9:54PM
I met my boyfriend who was (26) when I was 16 in 2010, exactly after a huge breakup, wasn't really looking forward to dating anyone but at one event I met my future fiancée, (I'm 18 now , about to study fashion in Singapore ) when I first met him, he wansn't really what I say my type, he was shorter than me, I'm about 164 cm ( 5'5) but then he asked me out and he was such a gentle man , I became to start liking him ( a bit as I was cautios) on that very first date , I can actually see my future being with him, meaning to say he was the one for me , and I said " hmm maybe his not that bad" it turns I was right, every single time we be going on a date he will ask my mom for permission, my mom likes him so does my dad since both are geeks, it's been 3 years now I've dating him, age doesn't really stop you to like someone, but follow my advice what I did when I was ur age, get to know him better and don't make rash desicion , and if he really sincere and he gives u his trust you need to give back that trust too, I wish u luck my dear
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