I think it is a bit much for you to expect a guy to pay for a date. I don't mean to be vulgar but men pay for prostitutes, not dates. A real woman offers and at times does pay if she has invited him out as a thankful for a previous date. I think if you set a pattern of expecting men to pay then they would expect a pattern of getting something (sexual) for their money.
I have equality in a relationship. It doesn't require men to pay for dates.
It might be for you but not for others. When I was dating my wife I paid for our dates. I did so because that is what I felt comfortable doing ba<x>sed on how I was raised. She offered to pay and because I declined, she would offer to make dinner at her place or suggest an event for us to attend in the future and then make the arrangements (pay for tickets, etc. in advance). It made me feel a bit uncomfortable because I had always felt that if a man was with a woman, he takes care of the expenses for the outing. When I was growing up women were more homemakers not office employees so their incomes were less. My wife is a doctor and can certainly pay for things herself. We had to work on striking a balance because she felt if a man always paid for dates that it made a woman feel obligated to "put out" and she did not want to feel like she was in that position. I respected that and we would share the expenses of dating ba<x>sed on who asked whom out.
A gentle man always pays...period
That's what my boyfriend says.
hang on to him then if he really does as he must know how to treat a lady with respect....good for you
If HE asks you out and it's the first date then it's good etiquette for him to pay for that one but after that you should generally split the bill. Occasionally you should treat him or let him treat you but 50/50 is fair.
you sound like a cheapo and a user.
i think it is acceptable. I never pay for anything when i am with my bf.
Exactly, Samerina! lol
I'm sure he gets paid back in others ways - just depends on how much he's paying. There's no such thing as a free lunch girls.
You better be putting out after dinner
I have always paid, but now days its often 50/50 or take turns...
From my recent experiences, the men I have gone out with has been nothing but gentlemen, they always pay. They say that they would not expect me to pay.
Only if you find it acceptable that you should only work in the kitchen, unless you are cleaning the house ofcours. And voting is, as you might imagine, out of the question. Oh and before I forget, you can't make decisions for yourself. Your husband or father should make those for you. <br />
Now stop sitting behind your computer and fedge me a beer...
I think he should pay it shows he aint mean as women make home meals on a movie at home night, its all about give and take really
I f he asked you out, HE should pay.
Whoever did the asking pays. If you're friends, split the expenses.
That all depends on if you are worthy of him to pay and not just expecting it.
What you are saying is "I'll go out with you as long as you pay for everything". Right? What does that sound like to you, coming back at you? If you go out with someone, money isn't an issue at all. You can decide on the night between you. Expecting the male to pay all the time leads to only one conclusion by males you go out with. Can you see that?
I have always figured that if they ask me out then they pay and if I ask them out then I should pay.After all we started women's lib.It's only fair if you want to be an equal then start being equal in everything not just when it suits you.Just my view. ;-)
simple rule... on a date.... The asking party pays for the date. unless the gentleman offers to pay. Then it is ok to let him pay. But remember you are a grown capable woman so pay for a date on occasion even if he offers. It will make him feel that you are as invested in the relationship as he is.<br />
In a group setting everyone pays for their own tabs.
Well truth is you should never have anyone do something for you that you are not willing to do for them. <br />
First few dates you go on with someone I think it is important you show you can care for your self. To many women out there now days do take it for granted. They are not interested in getting to know he person for a possible future relationship. They just want a good time at someone elses expense. <br />
I do believe your way of thinking but not if it is a first date or you are meeting the person for the first time. <br />
I do not date anymore, single, never been married, and likely never will be married. To many women take advantage of that system now days.
Date, friendly get-together, or whatever, whoever does the asking is offering to pay. If you invite someone to your house for dinner, you feed him/her. If you invite someone to join you where there's paying, you have to expect to pay. The invitee can always offer to pay or bring something, but it isn't an expectation and he or she shouldn't insist on paying, unless that's agreed ahead of time. If you never ask a man on a date, your expectation that he pays because he asked you out is entirely reasonable and proper. However, you'll be missing out on some fun that way.
I'll be sure to be the one doing the inviting. You just bring half a bikini and your smile.
if the guy your with has no problem with it..i say go for it...but as for me i enjoy when a gentleman pays for dinner..but i also like on occasion to pay for dinner..or drinks later on in the night at a club