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BreakerOfChains BreakerOfChains 22-25, F 14 Answers Jul 5 in Dating & Relationships

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Er... just stop doing it?

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I tried....didn't work.

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I guessed you're doomed then

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Start by thinking of the person who was dominating and controlling to you in the past. Do you resent this person? Can you forgive them? Often, we become the people we resent. I resented my mother for a very long time for the harsh disciplining she used on me. But then, I forgave her for it and I grew out of being an overgrown child with a beard.<br />
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Start by letting go of that person in your childhood who was dominating over you. Forgive that person. Don't resent them. We become the people we resent. Stop resenting. Break the chain around your own heart and then you can break the chains you have put around the people around you.

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Yes, I have done all of this. I was bound by so many chains but broke everyone except one, I don't trust people. I've been through so much, but my parents had the biggest impact on my life and who I am today. I've seen my mother get beaten and I saw how submissive she was to her husband and boyfriends and I told myself that I would never become like her and now I'm the total opposite. My father is controlling and demanding but he's intimidating with his. Me, I'm controlling when it comes to decision making, I lead in the relationship, if something needs done I do it myself, I pay the bills, I dominate every conversation, I'm a workaholic, and almost every guy I've dated said I make them feel like I don't need them. Some also said that I don't make them feel like a man. When more than one man saids that, then it must be true. All my life I was forced not to depend on anyone so as I got older, I did what I had to do. So everything a man normally does in a relationship for his woman, I already know how to do. So what am I suppose to do? Act clueless so he feel like a man?

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Unfortunately, we men are very egoistic creatures. We need to feel needed and we need to be depended upon. We like it when the woman we're with depends on us. I'm not saying to be submissive. I'm saying that it could be 50-50.

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Start remembering that men are better than you, and you have to do what they say.

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Is that right? How is that so? Please enlighten me....

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See this is what I'm talking about, that back chat. You got to start remembering your place and maybe you'll keep a guy longer than a week.

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😧😧😧 wow okay, remember my place. Got it!

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Hahahahahaha!!! :D:D:D:!!. You're funny.

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Do yourself everything you dont want him to do to you and you will see it's really means nothing.

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Ok 😊

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HI BreakerOfChains <br />
recognize what you want to do and aim to change. I quite like demanding women myself. Just saying. Controlling less so.<br />
Best wishes<br />
:)

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😊😊 thank you very much....

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Meow... Talk to me..

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Message me if you want

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let him tie you up

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Oh no lol

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I suspect the next few relationships will change it for you, if you meet "the one" who thinks you aren't his one because of those things.. They are likely to be hard lessons I am afraid

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You maybe right

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Hmmm. Sounds like the same problem I have. It could be because you feel like you lack control in your own life (hypothetically speaking), so in return, you try to control whatever you can.

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I think it's my lack of trust in men as far as being a leader. I had to take control of my life very young as far as taking care of myself and my business. Also I simply just don't trust easy.

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There's no one really that trusts easily, trust is something that is earned. Having to take control early can be apart of the trust issue, since you've been there, it's like you will always be responsible no matter who wants to help.

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Don't just find a guy who like it like me

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Where are you? Lol

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Texas USA

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You need to bite your tongue whenever you get the urge

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I've tried and every time I take a step back, a man doesn't know how to lead. (Shrugs)

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Why change it, just find a naturally subservient male

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I don't want a subservient male.

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get one that compliment your domineering nature then

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You can try, but honestly, it's who you are, so...~shrugs~ find a compliant guy, I guess.

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I was in a relationship with I guy like that and I wasn't really happy.

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Not surprising. You're a chick, after all.

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This chick can be happy thank you. It's just every man that made me happy, I didn't make happy. I want to change that some how. Guess I'll pray on it.

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That's what I mean. What you need, you don't want, and what you want, you don't need. You inherently draw on chaos.

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Well before you start assuming, the kind of men I date do give me what I need and I'm very open to what I need. They're really good men but I just can't trust a man taking that leader role in my life because I have have trust issues. So yes, I am drawing chaos.

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