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Vermillion44863
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I'm actually stumped here..?
I went on a date with this guy, we talked a lot and have everything in common. Figured he woulda bailed after the sex but so far he hasn't. We don't talk as much but he checks in just as often with a simple "hi how are you?" or "are you alive?" our extent of convo hasn't really gone much further beyond that. I haven't been texting him or IMing he's always sent a message first as soon as I come online. I've given him space to hit the road if he wants to. I have a feeling I may know what's going on but figured I'd ask you all first
Posted 1 month ago
DouganAFife
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Well do you like him or not? He probably wants a little in return.... you said that he always texts you and he always IM's you first. He prob thinks that you don't like him. And if you like him, why do you keep assuming he is going to "hit the road". Make him interested in you if thats what you want....he is not going to chase a dead end.
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Coyotegray
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:44PM
Did you tell him how it was for you - the sex I mean? Maybe he's unsure and worried you weren't impressed - might reject him.
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peterson1964
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:45PM
Am I missing something here... You had a good date, talked a lot, had everything in common, had sex, and now you are confused as to why he is calling...? Uhmm, maybe he enjoys having good sex and conversation with someone that he has a lot in common with and would like to do it again sometime. But he does not want to be too agressive and scare you off because he doesn't really know you too well.

Or, maybe he is just checking to make sure you are not pregnant.
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twix5000
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:44PM
um yeh... obviously he's not being any bolder because he fears you didnt like the date/sex with him, otherwise you would be making SUM kind of effort to stay in contact, instead of leaving it all up to him, he just feels that its all one sided.. and if you leave it like that he's just gonna leave soon, no point wasting time on sumone who doesnt even wanna talk to you!
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SaratogaGirl
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:44PM
Ummm, have you asked him how he is? Whats up? When he would like to hook up again?
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crazyinlove88
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:45PM
Don't leave the ball in his court. You call him or text him. Don't wait around for him. I did that for awhile and then gave and decided to call and come to find out he has been busy as hell. So just call you never do know. Plus if you call you will know what is going on verses sitting at home doing the whole does he like or not worry fit. That can get really stressful.
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MegJgeM
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:45PM
Ummmmmm perhaps he is nervous about your feelings on what happened? Don't think it is bad to begin with....
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j293339
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:45PM
It sounds like he likes you, but he's trying to gauge your response before he gets any bolder. Since you haven't given him much to go on, he's trying not to come on too strong. If you respond to his next communique by asking if he wants to get together again, I'll bet he jumps at the opportunity.
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PeedeeDog
Posted Nov 20th, 2008 at 2:21PM
I think he's just being nice with using the simple texts/ IM conversations. He's probably not interested in anything more than that or he would have been a little more agressive.
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Chamber005
Posted Nov 22nd, 2008 at 1:51PM
Um, you like chicks maybe?

I don't get what you're stumped about. You guys banged, you like him, he says hi to you...all...the -- OH MY GOD! YOU'RE RIGHT!

He obviously has bird flu and a disturbingly steep collection of Archie Comics.

Phew. That was close.

BRING ON THE NEXT BACHELOR!
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overman
Posted Nov 20th, 2008 at 1:54PM
He must have really liked the sex. :D
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amasky
Posted Nov 20th, 2008 at 2:24PM
Guys are usually polite if they think there is a chance of keeping you on a string for a personal toy. Think that's what he's up to??
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mags681
Posted Nov 20th, 2008 at 3:04PM
i think it's all about the sex keeping in touch for next time he falls ou with s/friend
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deftone
Posted Nov 20th, 2008 at 3:58PM
ide say he would be a little more aggresive if he was interested, probably isnt interested, ide forget it
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Duana
Posted Nov 20th, 2008 at 8:34PM
Maybe he likes you but just doesn't know what to say to you and it feels awkward because sex is not the usual first way of bonding with someone (well maybe in America...).

If you just let it continue the way it is, over time you will find out more and more about his character. The greatest bonds start with a hello and develop over time with no pressure in speed or feeling the need to talk or take things to a new level etc.

On the other hand if it is the opposite picture and there is anything you suspect about his character being shady - now is the time to cut the tie completely. I have no idea if the sex stuff was innocent or not- you might want to think about that.
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ELFINSONG
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 11:49AM
ask the question directly... "are you involved with someone else or married
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OregonJoe
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 7:54PM
Sorry to say this but maybe he is just playing the field? Keep a ear tuned to him in case he decides you are someone he shouldn't lose.

If that is your photo I would not want to lose you. You look gorgeous to me.
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flourlady111
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 10:27PM
when you break up with some one it takes agood while to build back up i wouldnt give up on this guy if it feels right.
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