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I'm Christian; God is the most important thing in my life. I love a non-Christian. help?

I'm a freshmen in highschool but I love God more than anything else. I've been raised in a Christian home and I truly try to be the girl God wants me to be. I fell "in love" two years ago when I wasn't right with God. I didn't know he wasn't Christian. once I got over him and got right with God, I became his friend and began to love him, but greater, more, because I truly know love- God. and then I found out a few months ago he isn't Christian, but I still love him; I would give my life for him! He's grown up in a Christian home, and he believes the Bible is true, but he just hasn't accepted Christ. I know that prayer is very important, and reading the Bible as well, but sometimes I just feel so lost. Any advice?

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    axeman66 - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by axeman66 Jul 28th, 2009 at 12:33AM

    you seem to be forgetting one very Christian principle: tolerance. you're also forgetting that it's not your place to judge.

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  1. cloudedjourney - 26-30 years old - male

    Reply by cloudedjourney Aug 21st, 2012 at 12:15PM

    How is not wanting to date someone of a different religion intolerant?

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  1. sleepingangel - 16-17 years old

    Posted by sleepingangel Apr 1st, 2011 at 2:09AM

    Everyone longs to give themselves completely to
    ne, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be loved thorough and exclusively. But God, to a Christian says, "No, not until you are satisfied and fulfilled and content with living loved by me alone". I love you, my child, and until you discover that only in me is you satisfaction to be found, you will not be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned for you. You will never be united with another until you are united with me--exclusive of anyone or anything else, exclusive of any other desires or longings. I want you to stop planning, stop wishing, and allow me to give you the most thrilling plan existing--one that you can't imagine. I want you to have the best. Please allow me to bring it to you--just keep watching me, expecting the greatest things--keep experiencing that satisfaction knowing that I am. Keep learning and listening to the things that I tell you--you must wait.
    Don't be anxious. Don't worry. Don't look around at the things others have gotten or that I've given them. Don't look at the things you think you want. You just keep looking off and away up at me, or you'll miss what I want to show you.
    And, then, when you're ready, I'll surprise you with a love far more wonderful than any you would ever dream. You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready, I am working even this very minute to have both of you ready at the same time. Until you are both satisfied exclusively with me and the life I have prepared for you, you won't be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with me...and this is perfect love.
    And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love. I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with me, and to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting union of beauty and perfection and love that I offer you with myself. Know I love you utterly. I am almighty. Believe and be satisfied.

    AUTHOR UNKNOWN-
    TO GOD BE THE GLORY!!!!
    Corinthians 13:4-8
    Mathew 6:33

    John 12:24-26

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    God Bless you and yours,
    i found this on this website i'm not sure where or who but i hope it helps and pray about it and wait cause God has made his plan for you and if you just pray for his guidance to lead you in the right direction.

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  2. atheyna66 - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by atheyna66 Jul 4th, 2009 at 12:48AM

    open your mind....is he a good person? A loving person? Does he treat you right and with respect? If so, then what does him being a non-Christian have to do with anything?

    I am completely offended by the convert him before he converts you statement. Everyone has a right to believe what is right for them. NOBODY is right or wrong and nobody needs to be converted away from what they choose to believe. If he felt the need to be "saved" I am sure he would seek it out. He may be perfectly happy and satisfied being a non-Christian. It is NOT a horrible thing to have a free mind....

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  3. tat2doc - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by tat2doc Jul 4th, 2009 at 12:51AM

    If you loved him before, then love him now. And pray that your daily actions will lead him to Christ. When he sees that you are happy and content, he will eventually wonder why and want the joy that you have.

    My ex g/f was like you, and I was not so religious. The worst thing she did was try to push her ways on me. Saying that my way was not what God wanted his followers to do. Well, that may be true or it may not be. But what bothered me about her words were that she thought she was right. Like she heard it from God himself.

    In any case, I heard a Christian radio show the other day that solved your situation, and mine with these words:

    Instead of the partner trying to change the other, that partner should have had enough faith & trust in God to let Him work in the other partner in His own way.

    According to the Bible, the man is supposed to be the spiritual leader of the house. But if he is not a believer, then you must do it and show him the way. And bring God's into the house.

    Since your profile is private, I will offer to go further into this if you'd like. Just message me. As a minister, maybe I can be of service.

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  4. unicorn59 - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by unicorn59 May 26th, 2009 at 8:51PM

    Oh, you are so wise, for such a young thing.....

    2 Corinthians 6:14 ESV
    Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

    That doesn't mean you are judging them....and you should always show others mercy and compassion.....but, we need to be careful of the company we keep....and particularly to be aware of our partners faith.

    I admire your faith, and your convictions....the world can become so tolerant of sin....and it's refreshing to see such a young person, who is trying to walk the walk....Always remember, that as a christian, you are in the world, but not of the world.

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  5. dedre - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by dedre May 21st, 2009 at 9:29AM

    There are people who benefit from religion and especially Christianity, and there are people whose lives get destroyed by religion, especially Christianity.

    It's almost like deciding not to be with someone you love because he has dark skin, or likes mustard with his peanut butter, or dislikes American politics.

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  6. godsmack666 - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by godsmack666 May 9th, 2009 at 12:11AM

    You say you already love him, so just accept him the way he is and get over it.

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  7. urbrandofheroin - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by urbrandofheroin May 9th, 2009 at 12:10AM

    Accept him for what he is. The love of my life and most friends are not religious. I really don't care about it.

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  8. KungPOWKitten - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by KungPOWKitten May 8th, 2009 at 9:46PM

    so he hasnt accepted christ, at least hes not athetist right?
    life isnt perfect ya know.
    your soupossed to accept and love your partner for all that they are. stay by his side no matter what if you really love him.
    and what makes you say he's not a christian? he goes by the christian belefs....that makes him christian to me

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  9. Cracked - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by Cracked Jul 4th, 2009 at 12:54AM

    Look inside yourself, and ask, can i live with this man?
    I might not agree with you faith, but it is important to not liten to us, but to the yourself.
    If you have the conviction to accept a god, then I am sure that you have the conviction to make, and stick to a choice you can live with.

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  10. MaximusUcharist - 51-55 years old

    Posted by MaximusUcharist Jun 18th, 2009 at 9:39PM

    If you are not married to this man then you must not get married to him until he accepts Jesus as his Lord and Saviour. The Bible has clear warning to not become unequally yoked with an unbeliever. I have experienced this, and it will ruin your walk with the Lord. It is like putting a well trained domestic work horse into a yoke with a wild untamed, untrained Horse and expecting the wild horse to behave and accept what you have spent your whole life learning to do without rebelling. Save yourself a lot of heartache and emotional turmoil and find a good Christian man to give your heart to.

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  11. live4god33 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by live4god33 May 9th, 2009 at 2:52AM

    You are right to be concerned about the faith of your true love. It is commanded to love God more than anything.He was raised a christian but he will have to make that choice on his own. You can be the light that leads him to Jesus. I love my wife all the more because she led me to him.

    By the way as a christian we are supposed to have fellowship with other christians

    If your faith is important to you of course it is important to bring not only your loved ones, but even your adversaries to God. To believe you had the way to heaven and not share would be a true act of hatred. i wish that no one would perish.

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  12. edgargeorge - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by edgargeorge May 9th, 2009 at 12:12AM

    Go back to the bible and look again -- is there anyone that Jesus would reject? Nah....a good person is a good person. If you feel he is right for you, then, based on The Word, Christ would approve too.

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  13. robdog606 - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by robdog606 Apr 1st, 2011 at 2:36AM

    My Nanna who died, two and a half years ago and I know is in the arms of her Father, was a lady full of great faith in God and love him so much but she also loved her husband who was a total and complete non believer and yet they respect each other, consoled and were gracious towards one another, had very similar morals and dreams & believed in the good of life and people and even though he did not believe God he believed in Nanna and Nanna believed God... Paul speaks of this in the bible and says that if a believer accepts a non believer and loves him or her both are united in that faith... to any two people in love no matter what they believe... are united in something beautiful and that makes close to God any old how cause that's what Love is and that's what God gives and all that Christian values or otherwise, any true values of the human soul stand for... Lady, you aren't being judgmental by asking this question I know and I don't think anyone should be making you feel bad for asking it... you are entitled to feel that way but is just that it puzzles you... everyone on this whole earth feels that way about love anyway... barely matters, this is your faith and like any faith we are always learning and sometimes the answer alludes you as it does us all at times when it comes to this all fateful question, is this love meant to be for always and is a love I can take with me beyond this life... the answer there in your anyway and I'm sure God loves you all the more for the trying... Good luck & just give the love you got to give.

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  14. cyberkitty - 18-21 years old

    Posted by cyberkitty Jul 20th, 2009 at 6:45PM

    Why are you asking us? All you need do is pray for guidance.

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  15. cloudedjourney - 26-30 years old - male

    Reply by cloudedjourney Aug 21st, 2012 at 12:15PM

    God is often pretty quiet, don't tell her not to ask for help.

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  16. mewlkitten - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by mewlkitten Jul 4th, 2009 at 12:54AM

    Why can't you accept other people for who they are? Is that what God would want? Do you believe God would want you to shut 'non-believers' or people of a different faith out of your life?

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  17. glowdershmikle - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by glowdershmikle May 26th, 2009 at 8:58PM

    I want you to know that I have the same exact problem. It's kind of weird because I'm a freshman as well. I broke up with him a couple weeks ago because he's moving. He knows that I love him and he says that he loves me back but a relationship wouldn't work for us because he's moving. I talked to my Youth Group leader about my problem about it and he gave me some wonderful advise, he said that I needed to find somebody that I didn't need to change (because I tried bringing him to church and youth group with me and he just wouldn't come). He told me to find somebody that has all the qualities that I want, to find somebody that knew God's love as well as I did, and to find somebody that would love me and not take advantage of me. I ask the same for you and I will keep you in my prayers.

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  18. ivoryone - 41-45 years old

    Posted by ivoryone May 26th, 2009 at 8:55PM

    can't be done, sorry to be so cut throat - I have been in this situation before

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  19. everton13 - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by everton13 May 21st, 2009 at 9:31AM

    I AM CHRISTIAN AND MY PARTNER IS MUSLIM WE HAVE NO PROBLEMS WITH OUR FAITH. LOVE CONQUERS ALL.

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  20. mythoughts0218 - 41-45 years old

    Posted by mythoughts0218 May 21st, 2009 at 7:16AM

    I am a christian mother. My son doesn't quite believe, but all I can do is plant the seed of Christ in him and the rest is up to the Lord. I don't think that there is anything wrong with you seeing this man. He believes! Hopefully one day he will accept Christ into his life, but if he doesn't, you have already done what the Lord wants you to do. Plant the seed of the Lord. I hope this helps you somewhat.

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