Great idea...Tell them you're getting married...But they're not invited to the wedding !! That will settle it for you.
It's ultimately up to you and your spouse. This is your day. Do what you want. Don't be bullied into doing something you don't want to do. Congratulations! ;)
I understand. I would like to do the same actually (when I finally find the one, lol). <br />
I was thinking, exotic location would be a good excuse-too far away. Or in a place where visas are needed, invitation given but no way to get a permit on time.
assuming you're only getting married once, and I hope you are, if there is any possible way to ha ve them there I think it's the right thing to do
One of the most important things to do when setting up house with someone, as in marriage, is to be clear to family and others who is in charge of your life. This seldom comes without cost. No one likes to jettison family, but if it's a question of your own sanity and happiness, do it and write them a letter saying why.<br />
It's called a Personal Declaration of Independence. All children must do this at some point or they will be defined by their need to be liked or their need to go along with whatever they perceive as the "right thing to do."<br />
It's very tough to declare yourself an adult. Good luck.
MY daughter's friend eloped to Niagra Falls. IT was completely planned with a wedding gown, tux, and a honeymoon but no family. Harrumph! I'd like to see the day! I told my daughter...go ahead, try it. You'll see me hiding behind the potted palm!
Many members of my extended family are getting married now. Those with limited budgets are only inviting the older generations. Its completely understandable. The family policy? Send the couple gifts if you're going or not going...they need it!
Good for you.....forget then in laws, that ll be better
That's your life. But you should invite them anyway. Otherwise it's disrespectful. Or at least your mother. You wouldnt be here today, if it werent for her.
This is not going to be an easy answer because I don't know all the facts....why are you estranged from your parents and family ?
My first wedding was like that.
It was fine really... My parents were divorced and did not get along with each other even though the divorce had taken place over ten years prior... anyway because of that we decided rather then choose one to go over the other we simply would not invite either of them... it actually went find although they were both kind of hurt about not being invited especially by the explanation but there really was no fall out from it. I still think to this day it was a good decision as it avoided a lot of conflict that would have been going on during the wedding.