No one should "get used to" another being mean.
Tell him how you feel. Tell him to respect your feelings, joke or no joke, it hurts you. If he actually gave a dammmm he would back off.
That is a classic abuser remark after they hurt you and you react. "I'm just kidding" " you are too sensitive" "You can't take a joke" They never acknowledge your feelings. They blame the person they hurt. Saying hurtful things to someone is NOT love. He is just going to get worse if you stay with him. The worst possible thing you can do to yourself is "get used to him being mean" You don't deserve to be treated that way and he has NO right to hurt you.
DUMP that JACKASS now! he's a pig. unless you are addicted to escalating drama, you'll drop him like the steaming turd that he is. quit asking, quit "deciding", quit struggling, whatever you do DON'T get used to it!
or you can end up miserable or dead -- your choice.
sounds like an ***. dump him.
if your boyfriend is mean to you its time to MOVE on!
You CAN and WILL get used to it.....if you stick around long enough. We can get used to anything if we have to. But....do you really want to train yourself to take abuse? Do you want to get used to being treated unkindly every so often?
One of the most cowardly ways to hurt someone is to pretend it's a "joke" and tell the person who is hurt that they can't take a joke (a double insult). The truth is, nothing is a "joke" if the other person doesn't find it funny. If you said something to him as a joke, a light hearted comment, and he made it clear that you hurt his feelings, you would probably apologize and not say it or anything like it again, even if you sincerely meant it as a joke. We don't generally want to say hurtful things to someone if those things are perceived as hurtful. He is being passive aggressive with you.
Consider that this will not change. It probably works well for hm lots of times with lots of insecure chicks. It will be easier to find another chick/victim than it will be for him to change his way of doing things. So, if you don't want to get used to this, it may be time for a change.
I'm with the "Dump the A-hole" crowd. And whatever you do, **don't** tell yourself, "Oh they just don't understand how special and different he is." That's how girls and women end up damaged or worse.
Kick IT to the kerb because thats no man thats a coward!!!
Tell him he doesn't deserve you if he is just going to be horrible and get rid of him there are plenty more fish in the sea
Oh, abuse you and then claim it was a joke. Classic abuser/racist/creep behavior.
make him chase you for a couple of weeks. if he's worth your time he'll chase u
Worth? your time? How about your LIFE? and that ain't no joke..
everyone is worthy of respect, and it sure as **** don';t sound like he has it even for himself, and if so, he will never have any for you..