I'm in love with someone that my friends and parents don't approve of, what should I do?

There is usually a good reason why your friends would not like someone. Is he controlling? Does he try to keep you all to himself and not let you have time for yourself or your friends on your own? Has he ever called you names or shown jealousy or hit you? Does he try to tell you how to dress or act? These are all red flags that you need to pay attention to. If you are always happy with him, if he doesn't make you cry and always treats you like the Goddess you are, then it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Just don't be blind to the red flags. I lost 10 years of my life because I refused to see what my parents and friends saw. He is in prison now and I never would have thought that would happen. Just keep your eyes and ears open. And love yourself before anyone. If you love you, you won't tolerate abuse of any kind and then there won't be a problem. You'll know your with the right person. Good luck. :)

Well, your folks ain't gonna like anybody. Nobody's gonna be good enough for their "little girl". That's just the way it is.

But if your friends don't like this guy, perhaps there is a good reason for it. Have you thought of asking them?

Your true friends will tell you, without saying "just cause". Sometimes when you get too close to something, you can't see it clearly. That's when friends help you to see what you can't.

Although they mean well, they can't be the ones that decides who you are with. Whether he is the wrong one or the right one is for you to decide not anyone else.

If he treats you well, acts decent in front of your parents and is always pleasant around them, what are their reasons for not liking him?
You really need to ask this. If no one can give you a decent answer, ignore their opinions and continue to see your boyfriend if you're happy with him.

Don't let them know you have a crush on the family dog.

Run off and join the circus! --- Worked for me!

Pay attention to what everyone else is saying...they see him from a different perspective....you are looking at him through rose-colored glasses......they might be picking up on something.

I have the same problem. Our relationship is a secret. We see eachother only when we can. It is difficult but give it time. Remember, others can only effect your relationship when a part of you is dependant on them. If you live on your own, it is much easier to deal with. If you can, figure out a way for you and your love to be together without interferance.

Good luck

dont listen to your friend push you around just let your dreams run wild with you dream girl

I wouldn't let what my friends or parents say about who I loved if I were you..I have before and it caused alot of problems for me..It caused me to lose the love of my life...you are the only one who should care about who you're with cause you are the only one who will have to be with this person or even live with them if you chose to spend the rest of your with them or get married

Ask ur friends & family point blank: "why don't u like him?" Then see if they've got the same basic observation that u may have missed. But in the end, the decision is urs to make. If u decide 2 b with him, u should tell ur friends & family, explain u've thought about the decision a great deal, love all if them & hope they'll still feel the same about u & support the relationship (& I'm a guy!!!)

well nobody accepts it at first but once they have realized that he/she is making u happy than im sure they will accept it... don't let other people's opinions interfere with what you feel.. if you are in love and want to be with this person i think that u should stay with him/her and take that chance before you regret it... they won't have a choice but to accept it in the end so do what you feel is right for you=)

Your parents' opinion IS important, but it's true that they may be overprotective or just think no one is good enough for their beloved child. But your friends, on the other hand, are unlikely to have that problem. I'd say you should ask for and listen to their reasons. "Love is blind"...or say the saying goes. It might be good to have other people's opinions, since you may have a hard time seeing his faults. In the end, though, it's your decision whether you want to listen to them or not.

I understand why you would want approval. But would you be marrying him or would your parents be marrying him?

If he truly treats you well and makes you happy then that is what matters. He probably will stick around longer than most of these friends will.

i say trust their instincts. maybe they see something in him you don't.

My first reaction, was to say, stuff them! But... People on the outside, often have a clearer, less biased view. If your parents, AND friends don't approve, there may be good reason. You may be one of many: love is blinds!

LISTEN. There's probably reasons why no one in your life likes him. Find out what it is and why. Then be honest with yourself.