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I'm pushing him further away. How can I be a better girlfriend? **Please Read Details**

I have a great lover, and he tries his best to keep me happy. The thing is, I can't seem to trust him when i don't have a reason not to. I get jealous a lot, and I start a lot of pointless arguments. He says I'm pushing him away. What can I do to be better for him?

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    Angelthelovely16 - 16-17 years old

    Posted by Angelthelovely16 Aug 24th, 2012 at 10:36PM

    Well try to trust and love him more..buy him a gift go for a walk together and talk.

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10 Answers to "I'm pushing him further away. How can I be a better girlfriend? **Please Read Details**"

  1. ProvidentialParlance - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by ProvidentialParlance Aug 26th, 2012 at 5:26PM

    Likely, you're experiencing reactions. Something about what he says or does reminds you inappropriately of something in your past that you didn't like. This could be a rude behavior from someone, all the way up to serious trauma of some sort. What you need to do is every time you sense him irritating you, stop and think of how you feel, what it is that made you feel this way, and see if that's a rational thought. If it's not then you might be filtering the information. If that's the case, try to think about what it is in your past that this reminds you. It'll probably not work the first bunch of times you do it but keep at it. Eventually things will begin to slide and work again.

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  2. SatinBound - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by SatinBound Aug 24th, 2012 at 10:58PM

    Just chill. Stop hounding him every time you have an emotion. Stop clinging and just trust.

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  3. atadir - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by atadir Aug 24th, 2012 at 10:43PM

    trust him or dump him.
    it's no good for either of you if you don't trust him.

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  4. dearestapples - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by dearestapples Aug 24th, 2012 at 10:39PM

    Jealousy is a very common problem in relationships. So be comforted with the fact that you're not alone. :)
    You can start just by taking little steps. When he hangs out with other people, resist the urge to text him or keep tabs on him. He'll appreciate that.
    When you see him talking to other girls, remind yourself that he chose you.

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  5. infpisme - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by infpisme Aug 24th, 2012 at 10:38PM

    Build up your own life with things that please and interest you. This will increase your self-confidence and naturally insecurity will diminish.

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  6. ddandme - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by ddandme Aug 24th, 2012 at 10:38PM

    jealously is a wasted emotion ...Be better then that..

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  7. FoggyKoala - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by FoggyKoala Aug 24th, 2012 at 10:37PM

    You need to find out, why are you getting jealous, what are you afraid of so much. What makes you so afraid of the thing? Then you might find a solution to your problems.

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  8. Snapple10 - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by Snapple10 Aug 24th, 2012 at 10:37PM

    You're going to have to dig deeper and take a deep breath before you react. Also, when I was your age, I was a lot more impulsive and moody than I am now. Some of it may just be due to age and hormones. Keep telling yourself not to sweat the small stuff.

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  9. asocial - 36-40 years old

    Posted by asocial Aug 24th, 2012 at 10:36PM

    Maybe you need counseling. And I mean that realistically. If you admit you have trust issues, then the problem lies with you.

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