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Vermillion44863
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I'm Stumped pt. 2....?
He texts and messages doesn't voice call, but doesn't ask much beyond how I'm doing. I try to ask him how he is and what's new but he sticks to one or 2 word responses and just fades off with the conversation. I also text him back once in awhile just to ask "hows it goin?" and the convo quickly ends as soon as it starts.

A part of me whats to agree and just say he is shy and wonders my reaction to the date and is infact scared of rejection.

Another part of me wants to be cynical and think he's only keeping in touch just to see what I'm up to and sorta keep me on the backburner and just keep in touch just enough for me not to be mad and trail elsewhere but still be on good enough terms for us to potentially hook up in the future.

Still little stuck..
Posted 1 month ago
twix5000
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he could be shy, he could be not interested. and the only way your gonna find out soon is if you ask him, or if you ask him out on another date, etc. just force him to tell you.
Posted 1 month ago
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cmcy
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 9:21AM
Listen to your inner voice...the one that is cynical. Too often we try to gloss over stuff. I think the fact that you even asked means that you suspect he's a jerk...
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rusted
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:47PM
Just one date?
He's not married is he? Maybe he has another GF?
Why can't you voice call him? Doesn't he want to talk to you?

It's possible he is shy, inexperience, not confident. Maybe he's busy, work stuff can happen in real life. It's also possible he is keeping you on a string. Maybe he lives with his mom.
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Waiwera
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:47PM
Yes...I would say, its time to demand to know where you stand with him. Either ask him out (if you feel like going that far), or insist on a proper voice conversation. If he's not willing to do either, you know how the land lies - its not really on, and you can look elsewhere.
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crazyinlove88
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:47PM
Be upfront. Ask when he would like to go for round 2 because you enjoyed round 1. You would be surprised what response you might get. If you don't get one then there is your answer and if you do get a response hopefully it is the one that you hope for!
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mysticsovereign
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:48PM
Ask him, exactly as you've asked us. Tell him, "I'm stumped"...and go on. If he agrees to an evolving relationship, go on a "no sex" date. See what happens. But, as others have said above, unfortunately some men are shy, inexperienced, lack courage; are in another relationship, keeping you on a string, married, etc. Ask. You're a beautiful person. Move on if he does not give you what you need - an honest, attentive romance.
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PrettyDarlin
Posted Nov 20th, 2008 at 9:18PM
You are gorgeous... why dwell on this one guy....? Keep your options open, girl......get out and have fun.... when u connect with someone truly worthy, you'll know it......
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PeedeeDog
Posted Nov 20th, 2008 at 9:30PM
I answered your other question. I think it's time to look at the facts as you have written them. Perhaps, it's time to move on.
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Duana
Posted Nov 20th, 2008 at 10:45PM
Really, only time can reveal what you want to figure out at this moment. You are going to need patience. It would helpt a lot if you had lots and lots of other stuff going on in your life- time will pass by quicker and it will also allow you to put this into perspective. But even if you don't just be patient as time will reveal what is happening.

One thing you can ask yourself is- do you both feel comfortable with each other while you are talking? It sounds like he is comfortable contacting you first- so it is not shyness. Can you ask him to go somewhere with you this weekend or sometime in the evening? And don't talk intensely about anything or make a big deal out of anything- just have fun with him and see how it goes.

Hope this helps.

Duana
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RobertHedrock
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 12:57AM
Do you want to see him again? If you do, you may have to take the initiative. If not, tell him you aren't interested and to please stop texting you.
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fluffyluggage
Posted Nov 21st, 2008 at 1:52PM
Honestly, here's my opinion, you put out on the first date, you didn't give him a lot to come back for. (I don't say that to hurt you, but just to remind you, if you were trying to get him to come back for something later...perhaps that wasn't the best way?) If you really want to know if he's interested, ask him. Or let it go and be done with it. Then you'll know and you can stop being in this stressful situation. You can grieve if he doesn't want to be with you, and you can be happy if he does! :)
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