I'm terrible at keeping up conversations.. any useful tricks?
12 Answers to "I'm terrible at keeping up conversations.. any useful tricks?"
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YOU are not bad at keeping a conversation, i think you just want to listen than talk.but if you really want to be more like a speaker.
try this:
talk about something you like subjects,politics,music,sports,movies but first of all you have to find a person(s) with the same interest as you DO. the longer you spend time with them the longer you talk about something until you get to story telling and life interests.
i think maybe just maybe you are an introvert in a extroverted outside world..
additional info.. just for fun :)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_QPcclYWOr4
studies shows that 90s-today's kids are less social than our ancestors/parents before the 90s this is because of technology today which is keeping us from socializing in the real world.but this doen't mean we are not socialize but more indirectLike (3)
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thankyou, that's pretty helpfull :) i hope i can find someone with the same interestsLike (1)
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Focus and pay attention....when you don't use it,you loose it. You loose interest when you're not conversing. "Talk" when someone is talking to "You".
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Firstly, listen...then you'll get the cues. But you have to really listen. Be interested in them and ask questions. You can do it. :)
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So breath, relax, and listen. If there is silence let it be silence, just smile on the inside and the rest will just happen:)
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Don't try, speak if you have something to say.
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becoz your mind is busy all the time second guessing.
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What kind of conversations - all? When flirting socially? When talking to strangers? Talking to friends?
What'd be a topic you could never grow tired of?
Anyway, the people most admired usually are ones who are exactly themselves.Like (1)
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well, with my friends i don't have any trouble, but with people i don't know very well, i just don't know what to say
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That's perfectly fine then isn't it? Don't have to start any conversation, just respond (You might even become the famous good listner!). Probably you will be able to talk comfortably when you feel relaxed/less-shy/etc with them
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Yes, it's very difficult if you don't give a $hit.
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Ask a good complicated question that really gets them thinking
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hmmm Maybe ask questions more and talk about things that you love and know about
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I'd read about it online. How to converse. There are many good sites with good info and tricks on it.
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by FlauntTheImperfections Jan 17th, 2013 at 9:59AM
Listen, take what you hear and expand on it. Talking about yourself is not so interesting to others (in general, not a personal stab at you) so if conversation is your goal, get them talking about themselves. You find out what they are interested in, then you add to that subject. If they should happen to ask about you, keep it brief and in context of the conversation. Change subjects when the subject changes. Don't try to keep on something or go back to it.
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