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I'm writing a story about an emotionally abusive relationship. Can anybody tell me how they got sucked into such a sitch

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    ThisIsMediocritiesOldAcc - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by ThisIsMediocritiesOldAcc Nov 13th, 2012 at 4:37PM

    At the beginning, everything between my ex and i was great. He was friendly, SO sweet, and caring.
    About a month in, I started seeing little fractures in his persona. He started getting REALLY angry at things. Little things, only for a short while. I didn't pay attention to it, because I figured it was just stresses of working, study, etc.
    I shouldn't have, because it got worse. Second month in, the anger outbursts got worse and worse. I confronted him about it, and he asked me if i was going to leave him. I said I wasn't, that I'd always love him, but he sulked for hours and hours about it.

    At about 3 months, the paranoia began to set in. the whole "where are you going? who with? Why?" And these were coupled by those tiny outbursts that had been getting more frequent.

    I think at 4 months things got ridiculous. He began panicking, thinking I was going to leave him. He sent me flowers and things, straight to my office. He told me he'd kill himself if I ever left him.

    I left him at about 6 months, when I told him I was going out with some friends for a night out and he blew his top, smashed things, accused me of cheating.
    It was a screaming match. That was the moment i said we were over. He just cried, begged, threatened me, tried to blackmail me.

    I walked out that door and i've never been happier. My experience was fairly short, but I hope that helped you!

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7 Answers to "I'm writing a story about an emotionally abusive relationship. Can anybody tell me how they got sucked into such a sitch"

  1. letbeangel - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by letbeangel Nov 13th, 2012 at 4:31PM

    everything is sweet and loving from the start then it start in small portions to break you down a little at a time becareful though once they succeed in the emotional abuse the physical abuse starts

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  2. pixelbest - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by pixelbest Nov 13th, 2012 at 4:35PM

    Agree, when you look back you see little clues but so in love you let things go and start again, believe the "I'm sorrys" and the "Won't do it agains".

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  3. NegaDraven - 22-25 years old

    Reply by NegaDraven Nov 13th, 2012 at 4:38PM

    Pretty much this, people are sweet, kind, and generous in the initial stages of the relationship and they slowly morph themselves until they know they've caught you in their web. My cousin had this one guy who went out of his way for her at the start but then he starting guilting her about everything until she was doing everything for him, and he began getting more detached and she kept looking for that high of the original relationship.

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  4. axel4550 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by axel4550 Nov 13th, 2012 at 4:58PM

    ok, lets see,when a relationships starts with a blow-job on a park bench,it generates into a very emotionally abusive relationship....cause one party loves to get sucked on a sit....hows that sound?

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  5. burstin2go - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by burstin2go Nov 13th, 2012 at 4:44PM

    I knew a couple (who have now divorced) where the husband was an abuser on several levels, including emotionally. PM me if you're interested in more of the story.

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  6. pixelbest - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by pixelbest Nov 13th, 2012 at 4:41PM

    Have to agree with letbeangel. With my husband started out so nice. I loved him so much, took ages for me to even accept I was so wrong about a person. And of course not always bad all the time. When I tried to break free, that is when it got really worse. I would like to add that I grew up without a father. Perhaps not having that role model of what a good man does for the females in my life left be open to falling for my husband. Honestly he was the same from day one, just refused to see it, made excuses for him. Once I had emotionally and physically had enough I could look back and see it. Don't hate him, just who he is and not with him now. But we share children and he is a better father than husband.

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  7. monkeysintheattic - 36-40 years old

    Posted by monkeysintheattic Nov 13th, 2012 at 4:31PM

    Write about what you know.

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  8. Lacsar - 36-40 years old

    Posted by Lacsar Nov 13th, 2012 at 4:30PM

    i was born into it.......

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