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In all honesty, does mother = martyr?

I see that my mother is so depressed and unsatisfied with life (this is the image I have of her for as long as I can remember). I feel she hates being a mother, everything is a sacrifice. She even complains about having had my youngest sister.

I am terrified that this is how most mothers feel in their 40s-50s...

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  1. growwhereyouglow - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by growwhereyouglow Jun 11th, 2012 at 11:58PM

    Not all mother's feel this way...many are amazing people that have it right. Although, I did have a pause and damn good laugh at this question before reading your story. Sorry, my humor can be dark, and I had a controlling parent, so indeed she could be the poster for martyr. However, depending upon why your mom feels that way can vary. It sounds like she's suffering from a great case of depression and life regrets as she's pondering her future and past. In your case, just be happy she brought you life and rock your fabulousity out. Her sadness shouldn't be your madness.

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  2. mstrsbunny12 - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by mstrsbunny12 Jun 12th, 2012 at 12:46AM

    Mothers truely mater. We are what holds are family and this world togetger. Without us, they wouldn't know a thing.

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  3. holywren - 51-55 years old

    Posted by holywren Jun 12th, 2012 at 12:08AM

    No Mother should=love
    Your Mom sounds like she needs help
    She needs a peer to talk to.Sounds like she doesn't realize how hurtful this attitude can be.
    Menopause is no excuse for this.You feel bad about being in a body that vexes you not voicing regrets about a birth

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  4. AncientTurkey - 66-70 years old - female

    Posted by AncientTurkey Jun 11th, 2012 at 11:58PM

    Take her out for a mani or pedi, she'll enjoy the break.

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