In need of some true advice right now peope have told me about this site and said it is useful so i'm realy hoping so.
I am more heartbroken then you coud ever imagine right now. I had been with my partner for 2 years almost and he had been the most amazing support you coud ever imagine throught everything. We have a 4 week old daughter and he left me 3 days ago saying he didn't love me anymore and just can't do it and that he has tried his best but it can't work. We used to be the happiest couple ever and he was always so sweet everyone was so jealous. I got diagnosed with depression when i was 6 months pregnant and had been taking zoloft anti depressant. When i was 3 months pregnant i began to treat him terribly and say awful things to him and bring him to tears and he was never ever nasty back he always tried to make me feel better andforgave me. well 2 days before i had our daughter i stopped the anti depressants thinking things were perfect :(when we got home i just got worse but never ever meant it he is now gone and i have been told i have post natal depression but he just doesn't understand :( I really want him back i feel like my life is over i miss my fiance so so much i wish i never got depression. I hate myself so so much :( I asked him to try with me again and that i am getting help but he said he has made his decision and that it's final. I truly love him with all my heart and have never felt this broken i know i deserve this considering the way i became but i never meant it. I wish i wasn't such a screw up.. What can i do to make things right???
7 Answers to "In need of some true advice right now peope have told me about this site and said it is useful so i'm realy hoping so."
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Get help sweetheart. Take care of yourself and your child. When you get healthy again, then you can work on the situation with him. He is an adult and is going to have to make his own choices. That child only has you to rely on. I wish you the very best.
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I think you're seeing him through rose tinted glasses. Allow yourself to realise it's not ALL your fault.
The baby has just been around for 4 weeks and he's jumping ship already. That's not a whole lot of commitment. Furthermore, he's not even saying "he needs some space or time" He's saying it's final.
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you may turn out to be right, but i don't think we know enough to be able to make that judgement call. also, when people do say they "need space" in some cases they actually do mean it's final anyway, and vice versa.Like (1)
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thats soo sad... your husband is so unlucky man.. you are a sweet woman. If i am in your codition,i would have left him because he knows i loved him so much. eventhough he dint like me,then he deserves nothing from me. better to leave than to stay. you will have a better future than this. Just try for a last chance and then if it doesnt work,just leave. that will be good for you and your daughter also.. Take care..
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so you're pretty much saying he's a good guy and you've been difficult? then you're a few steps ahead of most difficult people! i'm going to add you to my circle so i can be there to help you through it.
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big hug for you. the best thing to do is to go and see somebody about your depression. going off from depression medicine is really hard. pleas don't hate yourself, you've got a beautiful baby daughter, put all your energy and love into raising your child. I know you are a strong person, you just need to see it for yourself. like my father always told me when I'm down: go look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, Man!, I'm gorgeous!!!!!
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this site is like no other it has it all , the more you stay the better it gets , just ignore the bad stuff and take in the good stuff , you can makes stories and people will comment on them , you ask questions on Q&A and they will be answered , even statements , you can mail on site to ther members or use the chat bar also , i've been on it for 8 months now its great , your friend that told you about it was right , enjoy
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Posted by Seirian Oct 26th, 2012 at 5:30AM
Having a baby changes your life forever, this I guess you are already finding out. It is a very overwhelming experience for both parties - It is a given fact that 10% of men also suffer from post natal depression- I'm not saying he has it , but it is fact. Don't lose hope, but don't add pressure to an already volatile situation. as a new mum you are going to need help if your man who has always been there for you is struggling - try and understand but also look for other sources of help for yourself - It's difficult enough to cope when you are 2 - if you are just one so ( speaks for itself) use every available area you can find ( friends, familly, neighbours, social,) there are also places you can get help for your own PND. once he finds his space hopefully he will return. but don't concentrate on that. Concentrate on your own well being, your own life and the life of the one you have just brought into the world- you will come to find out how simply precious they become.
You are always welcome to use me as a sounding board or I really feel for you in your situation and I really do hope the best for you!
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