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Insecurities over BF extracurricular activities?
My BF and I used to have x every day. Now it is 1-2x a week and me initiating. He said it is b/c he is depressed about $ and x is the last thing on his mind.. which is not true, b/c he surfs P every chance he gets. In the morning after I leave for work and on his days off- as much as 3 hours then. He said he is to try to get his drive back for us. I am not buying that. I did put on 7 pds on my small 5'2 frame. b/c of a knee injury and I am working on that. But, I am so upset about this and my confidence has dropped and it is turning into depression. Is the P causing him to lose interest or has he lost interest and turning to P.. I dont know what to do, but I am at the end of my rope. We have a great realtionship outside of this, but I am feeling like it is a sham, since this is consuming my thoughts and making me very upset. Thank you. [Edit
Posted 1 month ago
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he has the desire to look at porn but not be intimate with you? maube he is depressed but i don't blame you for being upset. i have nothing against porn because i indulge in it myself, but if i'm looking at porn and neglecting my man in the process, then i think we have a problem here. my relationship with my partner should come first.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 9:16AM
Your question sounds very similar to this one, maybe these answers will help:

http://www.experienceproject.com/question-answer.php?q=1491
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 11:52AM
As of right now, he has lost interest in you. Count your blessing that you are NOT married to him or pg from him. It's time to cut your loses and find yourself another guy.

Usually when a guy loses interest in a girl, he does NOT get it back, especially a guy that young...Prepare yourself to say goodbye to him.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 1:18PM
When I was engaged to my now-husband, he stopped having **x with me entirely. He said he was depressed. I figured once we got married he would change. Boy was I wrong! We had **x maybe twice a year - I forced the issue so that I could get pregnant. This lasted for SEVEN YEARS! I lost all self-esteem, was absolutely beside myself with misery - I only got joy from my wonderful children and the friends I was making thru them. After the seven year mark, I said enough of this! and really started to work on myself. I felt divorce was not an option, so I worked out, made more friends, got involved in a tennis league, volunteered for everything under the sun, basically made a new life for myself. Well, guess who got re-interested? And at that point, I had no time for him. We did start to have much more frequent **x, but for me the emotional connection was GONE. Flash forward to today, and I am desparately trying to get out of this marriage - after 20 years! RUN! As fast as you can AWAY from this man. He will RUIN your life.
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