It may be like trying to catch a runaway horse but I bet he's an interesting man , usually very generous to others. May I ask you what sign he is ? He may not be the best at keeping anything going for any time, like love and life with a partner.
Yes Nikki , he is a difficult person to love, it sorrifully may not be in the cards for him in a relationship unless he is slowed down by his meds. His being a libra means he hs many demands, high maintenance to say the least, although he is good to you too , he does things a out of guilt, he is miserable when he is alone but so afraid to commit , mainly because he knows he is difficult.
Not impossible though!
I'm so sorry, however it may be in your best interest to let him just work on getting on meds , the right meds and he is another guy !
wow that can be complicated, actually dating someone with any kind of mental disorder can be complicated. Is he in denial about it , have a doctor, getting treatment ??
I am sure there are some good books on being married to someone with bi polar, I would get one in order to get an idea of the future. There are higher rates of divorce and abuse involved. Medical adherence is a big problem for many you have to enforce that if you are going to stay.
You are really better off, I kind of hate to warn people off from someone who has a problem just because he has a problem, it is good that someone wants to face something bad with you. But when he is not doing his best to fight it he does not deserve you sticking with it. And he is not, his drinking is just adding fuel to the fire.
You need to move on.
You must like getting hurt...
If you say so. I was in a relationship for 15 years with a girl who was/is bi-polar. We where married for 10 years. She ended up cheating on me, hitting me, divorcing me at the end. I tried hard to make it work--including therapy towards the end, which didn't do us any good. Seemed like whenever she would reach a manic phase, the last person she trusted or wanted help from was me, which drove her closer to people who in turn where looking for more then just 'helping' her. I wish you good luck with everything. Statistically your odds are against you. However, you never know, you might be the one who can pull it off...