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If YES, how do you tell them without turning them off? If NO, why is that not going too fast?
aniave aniave 31-35, F 13 Answers Nov 14, 2011

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Just a tad

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yes its a red flag, you have to be careful when men want to move too fast. They might be abusers. Plus nothing is wrong with taking things slow, if its going to work he'll wait.

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I'd say yes. Dating is like shopping for shoes. You try on various shoes and see how you feel about each of them. You'll commit to one eventually, but until you do, you're free to try on as many as you want.



The general rule of thumb is to avoid having sex with anyone until you commit to the one you want most. Then you can have all the sex you want with that person exclusively.



Asking to be exclusive that soon usually triggers a red flag. It implies that the person asking is a control freak, desperate, needy, clingy, seeking to steal from you, or that the person being asked is perfect for them. Think about it, how can anyone know by the second date that this person is perfect for them? Something has to be amiss here.



However, if both of you are desperate then it would be harmless to be exclusive this soon.

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I'd say yes. One date is not enough to justify taking yourself off the market. The best way to find someone is to date as many people as possible and eliminate people, over several dates, as you get to know them better. Eventually you hopefully end up with the right person.

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Yes...even if you aren't seeing anyone else, It's too soon to commit to someone so fast. What good does it do to say yes to find out on your third date that you really don't like them. What if your initially "butterflies in the stomach" fades before fourth date. Take your time...don't rush. Like I said, even if you aren't seeing someone else, it is safer to take slower and easier to get out of if you haven't committed.

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yes, but I also think it's bad to be sleeping with multiple people at once, so if you guys are knocking boots...that should be it. If not, tell him the truth, that he's coming on too strong and you like to take things slower in a relationship. Or whatever else you really think. Given that, you're asking us, maybe he isn't coming on too strong. Maybe you guys have a real connection or already know each other quite well. IDK It's your relationship.

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No. Sometimes you just know right from the very beginning that this is the right one. I know someone who proposed shortly after being introduced. He just knew within himself that he had just met his wife. And they have been happily married for many years.

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It's ridiculous- the party pushing for it is needy. Make it clear you still want to see other people

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Ah, your fallen in love, good for you.

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