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Is it better to look for love or leave it down to fate?
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I found the man I am with and have been with for the past nine years by chance. To be honest I was driving around my town lookin for you know : ) and the people I ran into that day introduced me to my sweetie! I always tell people love finds you when you are not even looking for it!
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 8:50AM
I dont believe in looking. But you do have to be open to it should it drop in your lap.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 8:50AM
Maybe it is fate that you and your soul mate should find eachother while searching... These two things are not mutually exclusive. While I agree that love seems to find us when we least expect it. I see no reason not to hedge your bets. Have you got anything better to do with your time? :)
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 9:51AM
I've been looking, and it's only led me to heartbreak. I started liking someone who does not like me back. I think it's way better to let fate have at it.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 6:42PM
You just have to give fate a chance, by going outdoors and doing stuff. Good luck.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 6:42PM
It's better if you be yourself, do what you love, let people get to know you and let fate take it's course. I'll add myself to the group of people who have actively pursued love and ended up disappointed.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 8:12AM
The moment I stopped looking I found someone perfect for me, but normally I'd say its best to be out there and up for grabs

good luck in your search
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 8:50AM
i've never had much luck when i was actively pursuing it,so i decided to leave it up to fate, god, whatever. if it's meant to be, it will be.i
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 9:24AM
Look. When you find your love it will be fate at work.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 12:11PM
True love will find you when you are not looking. There is no problem in looking for it, but when the time is right, it will come at you and knock you off your feet. Until that time, know how well loved here you are, and that you are amongst friends! Kisses and hope you find exactly what your heart desires!
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 12:33PM
Don't look, just be open to the possibilities. Life your life in an open manner and you will attract him/her when you least expect it.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 4:47PM
it seems that looking only ever leads to heartbreak and frustration. every guy i've loved came into my life by chance - or fate. love will hit you when you're not looking. the powers that be seem to enjoy blindsiding you that way : ]
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 5:21PM
After I lost my fiance it took me forever to even start looking again. When I finally did it never worked because I think I was looking to hard. I finally just said f it and decided it would happen whenever...I've been with my guy for a few months now and I couldn't be happier. We met through a friend of our that wasn't trying to hook either of us up, it just happened. So I'd say don't shove it down everyone's throat you meet at the same time though it is your life, don't just sit back and watch it go by....someone's gotta make the first move.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 5:37PM
Fate is a shady lady..LOOK and have fun doing it.
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 7:46PM
I say leave it to fate but I guess we need to learn to read the signs too...lol
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Posted Nov 13th, 2008 at 10:33PM
Fate. But sort of both. You have to have an active part.

You need to be open and trusting and upbeat with everyone you meet, and especially with people you date because you really like them. That's letting fate into your life. And love will come to you.

However creeps could fall in love with you too.

The key is to stay on your own path and do not let anyone deter you from who you are and the path you have decided for yourself. This a way of narrowing down your choices so that you are choosing the right people for you who fall in love with you.
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Posted Nov 14th, 2008 at 12:06AM
Fate won't happen if you're sitting around your house all day. Look for activities to interact in, and fate could happen there. But don't go looking for Mr. Fate. ;)
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Posted Nov 14th, 2008 at 4:56AM
Infatuations are divine gifts while they last, it's up to you to choose what to do with these gifts of fate - have fun, who knows, anything can happen!
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