Is it fair for you to be married to someone you dont love and cant be with someone you do love

Asked By: dolly99 41-45, F 6 months ago

Posted by Classicality7 Nov 15th, 2012 at 11:21PM

Is it fair to make a lifetime commitment to one person and then blow it off?

Reply by Classicality7 Nov 19th, 2012 at 1:54AM

Yes, I know. The return question was intended to make people think twice, not to make anyone feel guilty. I divorced my first husband when I found out he was a sex offender. The initial question was "is it fair to be married to someone you don't love" -- there's no background story there to tell me anything about what has happened in the relationship in question, so only the person asking the question can know if she is being fair to her SO in this.
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7 Answers to "Is it fair for you to be married to someone you dont love and cant be with someone you do love"

Posted by kimberlyj1977 Nov 16th, 2012 at 12:02AM

definitely not.
you should end it.
do the right thing and be with the person you truly love.

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Posted by bijouxbroussard Nov 15th, 2012 at 11:43PM

It's only unfair if you're in an arranged marriage and can't get out, like some people are. If you chose your partner, the two of you fell out of love and can't work things out, the right thing to do is end the marriage and free your spouse to find someone else. It's certainly more honourable than sneaking around.

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Posted by puremonopoly Nov 15th, 2012 at 11:31PM

It's called... mistakes... Why does everyone always seem to take the wrong takes? Maybe the grass is greener somewhere else. Why aren't you there then? What happened to get you to where you are today? Is this other place mere fantasy or a way to cope with your present reality?

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Posted by SkidlelyBoeBoe Nov 15th, 2012 at 11:28PM

it hurts
feels unfair
but i put myself here
and regardless of how she feels about me i do actually love her just not in love
just want her to be happy or at least realize i'm not what she wants
seems like shes in denial

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Posted by rewoolridge Nov 15th, 2012 at 11:22PM

Some do it at times, maybe for different reasons.

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Posted by 2Buddies Nov 15th, 2012 at 11:21PM

Is it fair that people can enjoy a recreational buzz in Colorado & Washington and I cannot?

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