No I think it is good idea. Problem with women who make good money from own friends is they end up with guy who is lazy. I mean he does not have to make huge money but working is big plus.
It's responsible to expect any partner to be at least self-supporting. It only becomes gold-digging if you're expecting to benefit materially from your partner's financial status.
if the financial security that is sought from a partner can not be reciprocated, i suppose, it could be considered "gold digging".
No it isn't. But it would sound less 'gold diggerish' to say it like: 'you'd like a mutually financially independent relationship'. There's my la de da fixup for ye.
Absolutely not. You want a responsible peorson that's making something of themselves.
No it's a smart choice. ;-)