The odd person out is in a weak position. They have to come second behind the normal marital and familial duties of married couples. Women are used to being in the weak position, men aren't. Unless it's just the occasional boff behind the husband's back, men aren't willing to be second place.
But I am a single guy who is not only willing, but wants to be in second place as a married woman's secret lover. I find the thought exhilarating. Friend me if you want to know more and I'll be glad to discuss it.
I beg to differ.
Man, did you all miss the mark! Study afer study has shown that men and women cheat for different reasons, and have very different consequences as a result. When a married man cheats and his cheating is discovered, the wife if more likely to forgive him and give him another chance due to; (a) having more to lose financially, as men are still out-earning women and (b) life-long societal conditioning that men are "allowed" to stray. Men in happy marriages cheat simply for the opportunity -- Fatal Attraction, anyone? <br />
When married women cheat, their husbands are much more likely to leave them because (a) he'll consider it a personal blow to his manhood, (b) society at large will forgive him for leaving that slutty b*. Women cheat because they either want out of the relationship/marriage or due to problems in the bedroom/his performance. <br />
As for occurance and acceptance, married men cheat slightly more than married women, so the ratio is closer to 60/40. And a woman knows to keep her affair hidden, else she'd publicly damed as a wh***. If you doubt me, just tell me all of the COMMONLY-USED words for male **** ...and I'll give you 15 for a woman.
Only out of curiosity, what are your thoughts about the wife making more $$$ than the husband, do you think there's higher chance of her cheating?
I think there is a higher chance. At least from what I have seen.
Women are more stupid enough to believe that the married man will leave his wife for her.
true bcus women are easily manipulated by married men, som think they love her more than there wife but it nvr happens u r always 2nd.
Scientific research shows women are more attracted to men who are "taken" than to unattached men. The same effect is not there with men's reactions to women.<br />
However there is not a substantially greater amount of adultery by husbands than by wives, if any greater at all. The only survey I know of on cheating by unmarrieds found girlfriends cheating more than boyfriends. The idea that men are wired to cheat and women are wired to be faithful is baloney.
I agree. Women cheat just as much as men.
In response to VishayaAnudha's nonsense :
"Study afer study has shown that men and women cheat for different reasons" Bullshit! Those studies are dependent on the honesty of the respondents. Women LIE about why they cheat. They say they cheat for "love." That's because they want to portray themselves as still "good girls" rather than *****. Men and women cheat for exactly the same reason--because they get excited and they want to have fun. You see that on this website with all the stories where wives in happy marriages tell about their yielding to their first experience with another woman, which is certainly cheating.
The reason that husbands are more likely to get divorced from cheating wives than vice-versa is well-portrayed in the book Women's Infidelity by Michelle Langley. The problem is that cheating wives are drastically less likely to repent than cheating husbands. An adultery-breached marriage in which the cheater is unrepentant cannot be saved. Women cheaters have a harder time repenting for several reasons. One is the nature of females as blame-shifters. Another is the cultural BS about women being naturally monogamous, which causes a woman cheater to feel more defensive, which amplifies greatly Woman's blame-shifting bent. Women grow up hanging their self-esteem in part on the idea that they are "good girls" and naturally monogamous, unlike those sleazy males. When a woman finds herself cheating and enjoying it immensely, it causes a crisis in her self-image. As a result women cheaters are very screwy, unstable creatures.
Another factor relating to the question itself is that it is part of male culture that trespassing on another man's wife is considered profoundly dishonorable. This is reinforced by centuries in which other than war, the most likely scenario for a man to kill was taking vengeance on a man who laid his wife. There doesn't seem to be as big a disgrace in female culture about a woman who trespasses on another woman's husband. Michelle Langley, the expert on female infidelity relates how when married women go clubbing and seeking sex with unmarried men (as with "cougars"), they have to lie and say they are divorced, because if they admit to being married it scares off potential male lovers.
IMHO I wish for more single men and married women. Just sayin'.
Married women simply conceal it better
Good show kids I got nothing to add I think you've covered it all.
Wow that really SUCKS, just caint find 1 for my own. But i guess it cose i burried mine and GAVE up looking for 1.
That was me.<br />
I am not proud of it, but I slept with a married woman. We just flirted and then she wanted to come to place and get it on. well... I struggled with the family wrecker label especially since I met them. Then she got naked and so did I. Once and done, but that is the truth of it.
Eve,.. you are my hero! <br />
raised to be catty? For shame...!! wait ....
Yes, you are most likely correct. Unfortunately, it seems that it is more likely for a man to cheat than a woman. It just has to do with the way they are wired.<br />
Return the favor, answer mine?<br />
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Yes, you are correct. At the risk of sounding less than sensitive, I think it's because so many women are raised or grow to be catty; whereas, men tend to be more loyal to their friends than they are to their wives. Those are the main two factors.
I think you will find my answer interesting.
anything can happen...lawless heart...lol