Is it normal for a 20 year old female to have never had a boyfriend, or never been kissed in a romantic way?
16 Answers to "Is it normal for a 20 year old female to have never had a boyfriend, or never been kissed in a romantic way?"
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I should hope so!
That is the situation I'm in.
I'm okay with it, but I have family members who keep pressuring me about things like that.
Like everytime I go to a gathering, I get questions like "Do you have a boyfriend?" and my mom and grandma are always like "Now is the time when you should be dating!" and things like that.
That gets to me more than the fact that I've never had a boyfriend/been kissed.
So, don't stress about it (: As long as you're happy, these things don't matter too much.Like (3)
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It's a really annoying question >_< I totally get where you're coming fromLike (1)
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I don't know that that is the norm, but it doesn't mean that YOU are not normal. I didn't have my first boyfriend/romantic kiss until I was 20. I had a totally normal life, friends family, etc. and for whatever the reason, that sort of just passed me by. I spent so much time stressing about it and then it happened eventually and here I am, 10 years later, married with kids- no harm done. :)
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Who's to say what is or is not normal for you? Move at your own pace, your time for romance will come.
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Nope. post a picture and I may or may not be able to tell you why that may be... lol
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If you're happy with it, then screw normal. You're the master of your own life, and if you like being single, that's your choice and no one should say whether it's normal or not. It's none of their business.
If you're not happy with it, trust me it's not that hard to get it over with. Ask yourself what the reason is you never got to it and then see if you can do something about that.
:) Good luck!Like (1)
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if you're a girl, you are just probably pressured most likely because couples are everywhere to be found. I had experienced or let's just say 'have been experiencing' this right now because according to my peers,the idea of having no boyfriend at all oftentimes means "that i am missing all the fun in life." By the way i am 20-year old gal and it is not true in my case but in a way, it makes sense. I am not saying I have a perfect life without romance but my point is you can still be happy without it. If you find fulfillment and happiness with your family and friends at this point in time, you are doing good. it's a matter of priority, or you might be just too picky.
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It's not a matter of normal or abnormal. It's a matter of common and uncommon. I was 23 before I kissed a man, and 24 before I sex with him. A year later we got married. It's not abnormal, it's just not common.
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No. But I always stayed away from guys who asked me out and stuff and was super shy, until I started drinking and partying a lot. It really reduces the tension, and it's sort of a non-judgmental atmosphere to step outside of your comfort zone.
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normal is not an acurete word for almost anything.
if there was a line witch represented the avarege action a female your age got then you would prob be outside the line.
on the other side of the line would be all the females who have no standarts, self worth and prob no father.
the middle is for the sheep.
no matter what you do your screwed.
I need to say though that in some cases people find themselves not in the catagory their personality fits in and that can suck.Like (1)
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What's "normal"? I have a cousin whose 38 and still hasn't had a girlfriend, is still a virgin and may not have even been kissed yet. He's perfectly content to wait until it happens and he isn't ugly. He's just really shy and picky. The ones who answered "yes" are most likely virgins themselves.
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Yes!!!!!!! The worlds definition of 'normal' is warped nowadays. Now kids are doing crack and having sex at 13. I think It's perfectly fine that you haven't met the right one to do this with. Take your time and enjoy life.
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The truth is: There is no normal. Nothing is true, everything is permitted.
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Who's to say what is normal and what isn't?
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anti-social
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yes it is...
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Posted by Alustrial Jul 16th, 2012 at 3:54AM
It's normal as long as you are happy with yourself and your life. As for me, I didn't have my first kiss until I was 23. Hell.... I'm scared of touching people... even my wife, lol. So, yes, for me it's phobia based, but it isn't anything to be a shamed of. Or feel guilty about. If you never had a boyfriend, then wait, my Wife only married the best person she found after 30 or so years of dating. She's an amazing woman. :) <3 Yet, all that matters is what you think.
If you don't like being single, that's ok. The time will come when you won't be. Or if you really want to be, you could become the next 115 yr old virgin. I believe she said that men were a waste of time... or something to that effect anyway. That was how she avoided being dated.
I'm sure you can ask anothere question if you need advice on how to get a date...
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