Don't focus on those "parts" focus on relaxing and enjoying...sensuality is key, and nerves play a big role. You need to relax and learn what pleases you...have you worked on this solo? Maybe some toys? Or perhaps allow him to stimulate you orally?
it may sound silly but allow him to just lightly touch you with something like the tips of his fingers or a capped pen to your hair...relax...they actually make scalp massagers that help you relax and increase ...stimulation. So good. Allow him to explore your body, to kiss and caress you and work his way up to stimulating you...have him tease your body until your body is literally begging for him to touch you there...
It's actually fairly common among non-virgins too. That's why there is such a huge market in oils and lubrications for those intimate moments.
They do help quite a bit. Reaching the big "O" however, isn't just about getting wet down there. It's about finding the spots of arousal, which aren't always in the same spots for everyone. and yes, some women take longer than others. I've been with a few that reached it in no time (under 5 minutes) and others that would take an hour or more. And some just never get there, no matter how long. Every woman's body chemistry is different.
That's half the fun of intimacy... finding those spots! Anybody who doesn't bother is pretty selfish in my book.
Perhaps they just need you to guide them. A truly intimate lover is also one that can listen to your needs. If you don't feel comfortable guiding/showing/asking them to concentrate on those spots, then you should question why you would be having sex with them at all.
I know when I was younger, I just went with what worked on previous women. But I discovered that if I listened to what she wanted, and she listened to what I wanted, we both found extreme satisfaction when all was said and done.
I wish you the very best. May you have a "Merry Orgasmus" this holiday season. ;)
i have hear it is though one should just got for the action, when should explore the WHOLE BODY from head to toe. a women does just have pillows and a flower or tooting hole for sex or a man just have a tooting hole and a stickshift and ball bearings there is so much to the ears neck stomach back legs toes etc. for sure explore is key i rather do that than have sex i rather make the woman relaxed and happy and it;s not always ramming speed -.-
i guess i am confused ?
on i guess what u meant cause u said but thats what i mean???
*sad face* sorry
Everyone is different!