Some people shouldn't drink and if your husband is aware that this happens, and he loves you, he should stop drinking forever.
I too, say mean things when I drink more than my share. I have always done that.
Which is why myself and many others like me need to stop drinking, or not drink in excess around our partners.
There is no excuse for such bad actions, alcohol or not.
alcohol is not violent, people are.
alcohol removes inhibitions. an angry person that controls himself, will become violent when drunk. some people need a drink so they can dance.
myself i got drunk (with a beer cause i don;t use to drink) 2 times in my life so far. the result : i told so many jokes, some of them "spicy" , made everyone laugh to tears, then i went to bed and slept more than 12 hrs with no dreams.
Yes, it is normal for some people to get aggressive after taking alcohol. Why? because alcohol lowers INHIBITION in humans.
That means he already has an aggressive nature, but he doesn't normally show it because that wouldn't be socially acceptable. However, BEWARE people's true feelings and instincts come out when alcohol numbs down their inhibitions.
Additionally, (sorry to say) but you are describing the classical textbook example of the early stages of domestic VIOLENCE. (the statistics say he will beat you up eventually). That is EXACTLY how it starts. Just the way you described it. You need to to care for yourself, your safety and your life
If I could depict this situation for you, I'd have big flashing lights, sirens and and someone yelling YELLOW ALERT, THIS COULD TURN RED ANY DAY!
I have seen many mean drunks. Anyone who hasn't seen a mean drunk needs to come to Northeastern Oklahoma there are plenty of them. Since alcohol lowers inhibitions, people are more likely to act out.
Sure, if you're an alcoholic.
Yep! A drunk will tell you the truth when they drink , and lie when sober.
Is it normal? Who the hell cares! It's behavior that you don't have to tolerate if you don't want to. Both of you need to get some help.
I was talking about drinking the other day with a group of people and one guy said, "I would really like to see all of these mean drunks y'all are talking about, 'cuz I have never seen a mean drunk!"
I have NEVER seen a happy drunk! But I have seen more than my share of people who get violent and nasty when they drink too much! So much so, that I will NOT be around drinking, do not engage in it myself, and frankly, drunk people scare me to death!
My dad was a raging alcoholic, so I have never thought drinking was funny (having the cops at your house regularly will do that to you!)
I am not sure how much your husband drinks, but if he becomes abusive when he does, he has a problem! He needs to not drink so much. Try talking with him when he is sober. Good luck!
Who knows what "normal" is when drinking alcohol. You shouldn't put up with this and he shouldn't drink.
Yes, sometimes people say things they didn't mean and when you drink you lose control of yourself. So when people are drunk they will blurt out things they don't really mean or don't actually know what they are saying. I'm not saying they can't control it, but it is difficult to especially if you're completely wasted.