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Is it normal to not want to get married?

I have chosen to not get married because i hear of so many divorces,where the husbands are having an affair while the wife has to take care of the kids and look after the household. I believe that two people can be in love but marriage nowdays just dont last. I guess we were born alone so we die alone..

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Everyone is different. Some people want to get married others don't. There is no 'normal'. Now as far as not getting married because there are so many devorces I don't see this as a legitamite reason not to get married. First of all marriage is just a word. If you live with someone it's the exact same. There's no difference weather you get married or not. Maybe you meen that you will never get into a serious relationship as it could fail. I don't think this is a reason either. Do you really want to live your life never trying anything because you might fail? For me that would be the ultimate failure. Anyway a realtionship that doesn't work out isn't a failure in my opinion. Every relationship changes you and helps you grow. Even if you don't spend the rest of your lives together I would never call the time you had together a failure.

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noshadow	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 8:27AM Marriage is not a piece of paper...that's a contract. Marriage is the mating of souls and all the care that keeps it together.. Rated: +2Vote for this!
atasteforsufferin g	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 9:46AM i'm pushing 40 and i decided in my youth i didn't want to get married. you have to choose for yourself. i saw too many unhappy marriages and too many divorces (my mother was married five times) Rated: +1Vote for this!
notg	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 7:48AM to each is his own Rated: +1Vote for this!
happyy	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 7:51AM yaa i feel the same,marriage destroy love,,so if u love some one very much better let go of.....hmm wether we r normal or not,,well ihope we r :s Rated: +1Vote for this!
cmojlo	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 7:53AM I think it is totally up to each person, but I wouldn't base my life on other people...I found someone that loves me...my flaws and all...and that is what make me love him even more...as far as being a parent...I could not think of a better job...I love my kids...I find it to be the best job in the world...I have no problem waiting on the ones I love...And if I had to go it alone...that would be ok with me because no matter what I still have my children...so I would never be alone...that just what I think. Rated: +1Vote for this!
ambergris	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 7:59AM Yes At 25, I had no wish to get married but by 27 I had met someone that I wanted to be with, so marriage just felt right. In fact the idea of marriage was such a grown up thing to do, something older people did.....but I was too young! It's true that marriages do break down, but many work out very well. Rated: +1Vote for this!
sistermary	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 8:04AM yes yes marriage has been trashed since back before dirt was invented tis why match makers are a thing of the past E- harmony and the like are trying to revive this horofying effect Rated: +1Vote for this!
Tailor	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 8:10AM Dont let others experiences determine your future or present state/status.. Live for yourself but learn from others.. life is one learning experience.. You will know when you have met someone you will want to spend the rest of life with and marry.. You are a unique individual! Rated: +1Vote for this!
Lucyintheskywithd iamonds	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 9:34AM It's not normal, but it is an acceptable outlier behavior. Rated: +1Vote for this!
tomt88101	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 10:07AM No but it is smart. Normal is only what society thinks you should do. Involving the government in a relationship is not a good idea. Marriage only serves to protect the rights of children that a couple intend to have. Other than that is is a unnecessary ritual. Rated: +1Vote for this!
nomedeplume	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 10:07AM Have you never heard of women having affairs? Or men being left with the children- as the men always being the ones responsible for the affairs is a very stereotypical attitude, women just tend to get away with it better as it is not expected of them and they are more devious. I never wanted to get married, i had a fear of committment but that was my mind and heart telling me that the person that is my other half, was there and then that attitude changed. But that is my personal experience, and may differ for you. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Bagelbabe	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 10:51AM Actually more and more these days a lot of people don't want to get married. So if you're doing what you feel and think is best for you, that's normal then. :) Normal = balance of equilibrium. Go for it! Stay balanced to yourself, you're all you've got! Rated: +1Vote for this!
eroticas	Posted Oct 23rd, 2009 at 11:30AM Your partner may or may not have an affair whether you are married or not. I do not think you should base your marriage decisions based on that. If you do not have the urge to commit yourself to a marriage to the man that you love...perhaps he is not the one. Relationships come and go either way...its just easier to get out of it if you have not signed the paper. :) Rated: +1Vote for this!

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