What a bunch of biased BS! I suppose if a Mom takes her grown son to buy him underwear that's just fine, right? What's the difference? An honorable, loving father could damn sure take his daughter to buy underwear, or anything else for that matter. He might even be tickled, or a bit embarrassed at her selections... but that doesn't make any part of it bad.
If he is taking her shopping and she says she wants underwear, at 16 where else is he going to take her? Idk, doesn't sound that off, I think you guys are the pervs.
There are a lot of reasons not to though, I shopped with my dad as a teenager. I don't remember but I'm sure I need bras and underwear and I'm sure he took me to buy them. That alone doesn't sound like anything to be speculative about.
omg, talk about a bunch of made up problems...
Wow, well I grew up around a lot of teenage girls, and they start wearing them more like at 12 half the time whether their parents know or not so lets get a little realistic.
Oh, but I'm sure if you ran out of tampons, you'ld send your husband to the store to pick them up, right? What's the difference. I think too much emphasis is put on sexuality.
I think this may be stemming from your own issues with your own sexuality. I have alot of hangs ups too, that stem from my past. It's ok, we all have issues.
On that subject, I don't know what the girls were like when you were your daughters age... I really don't, but you have to face it that this is how it is. It is a taboo, nothing is wrong with it, its just different. And i'm sure thongs are very common for teen girls these days.
i think the issue here is what the relationship between the father and daughter is. Sure it is inapproapriate to take her to get sexy underwear, but she isn't 13 either, and maybe her father wants her to be ok with sex and respect herself. Sometimes father play a far role when it comes to their daughters and sex, and it can have an adverse effect. A father isn't necessarily there to tell his daughter that sex is bad, but more about what real relationships and sex is. So it really depends on the relationship and who this girl is imo
That's abit creepy not gonna lie
I'm a father of a now-24 year old girl and I would give that idea a definite no.
Nopes, dont agree with that.
I don't believe it is inappropriate to take her, it would be if he was gonna watch her try them on
nothing wrong with the mom and dad consulting with each other on how to approach this issue,,,it's a family unit,,,not a dictatorship,,,and all 3 should sit down and come to a agreeable solution,and what is best for their child,,
There is nothing wrong with "MOST" dads taking their daughters shopping. But if I am getting her undies... it's going to be granny panties!!! I don't even want her feeling sexy around boys until she finishes college!
In this day and age of 'flexible morality' and 'nothing is ever wrong', I would not be surprised if primary schools in California or Massachusetts started sponsoring Thong Fashion Shows so their female students could 'express themselves sexually and artistically as empowered women'. <br />
No, it is not okay....that is, it NOT okay for young girls to be wearing such things, and it is not okay for fathers or mothers to be buying such things for their young daughters, period. After they are 18, they do what they want but at least they have SOME values and self respect.
And I equally feel sorry for you because you don't....
Don't worry, he's attacking everyone that does have the same opinion
They are just items of clothes, I took my daughter shopping lots of times and she picked bras and knickers (mostly thongs)....don't know if Victoria's secret if different coz we don't have them.....mostly the sets were on little hangers. She never asked me if I liked them and I never passed a comment on which she chose, it was always her choice. To all of you that think this is creepy you are being foolish...I don't think it is a big secret that teenage girls wear underwear.
No!! Ask mom
It's sickening if you ask me. Makes him look like a phedaphile.
If they were going somewhere else to buy regular underwear I would see nothing weird, but since they are going to a lingerie store for thongs that are typically only for sexual activity its awkward. Not that I think he's a pervert, its just innapropriate.
Its just the way it is for me.
So, you only wear thong when you're gonna have sex?
I don't wear thongs period, but if I did I would save them only for sex since I find them extremely uncomfortable.
Well I don't see why not.
No...teenager can pick their own clothes...so I think taking her to the mall is about as far as your average person would be comfortable with. If he thinks she might need help I would suggest a female family member might be better suited to give advice. It's really not the same as throwing a pack of Fruit of the Looms in the Christmas stocking.
Look...even as a female. I wouldn't take a child to Victoria secrete. If the girl went on her own or with contemporaries...that would make sense. As an adult taking a child to a store that basically advertises it's products in a s8xual manner...one has to wonder what you, the adult could be thinking. Now....if the child needs help finding underwear.... I don't really think he's going to have the personal experience to suggest something. Also...while I might not go through my teens clothes or throw such a thing away...but I would never purchase a thong for a child..... My problem isn't him taking his child shopping...
Still, as his new wife..you really should stay out of it. I agree most people would not do this...but that's not to say that it is wrong to do so. I think perhaps, the problem is that you didn't know your husband and his daughter well enough before you entered the marriage. I don't think you should seek to 'fix" them......they may simply be close because it has been the two of them...not everyone is really that prudish about underwear. Not everyone thinks Victoria secret is a skeazy store. If you really are not comfortable with this guy and his daughters ways...then you may need to leave this relationship...because she is his child...and they already have an established way of doing things...and it's really not the place of the new wife to try to change everything...especially when the child is soo old.
You could have just offered to take her yourself... If you shop there. I mean 16 is too old really to change how she is being brought up...in 2 years she should be off to college. I know nothing about the relationship with the mom...I'm just going by what you given
my dad would have shot me first...lol when he found out i was wearing them he went in my room found every pair and threw them away lol....no its creepy
uh. no. and i would watch that if i were you. all that daddys little girl talk, may mean something very deviant is going on. its totally inappropriate
yuck that is just sooo wrong
i can't think of any father that wants to do that with his daughter.
Maybe the question should be why don't you trust your spouse with your daughter?
my 2 year old manipulates her dad too, my husband is super controlling but shes the only person who can manipulate him back, but im pretty sure on a matter like that and my daughter were 16, it would be a definate no on his part and if I were caught taking her in victorias secret, he would raise hell over it. fathers are supposed to be protective over their daughters, its just not natural for a father to take his daughter to go shopping for thongs or anything beyond the basics. as a mom, evern though its too early for me think of something like, i would probably take my daughter shopping in victorias secret at 16, I remember shopping there when I was that age with my mom.
That's something you'll have to take up with him then. As for me, all my daughters were wearing VC thongs/panties as soon as they got jobs. So they were wearing them at 16.