Is it ok for another girl to text your fiance "i love you"?

hm, there was a girl on here who posted a similar question like this and I told her not to worry about it- but her tone was completely different. My instinct is different on this one- you sound alarmed. But I would still tell you the same thing I told her: you have the facts- we don't. You know your boyfriend's character and you know this girl's character. You also can peice together the truth without anyone having to tell you. Realize that your life depends on you not on them and then face the facts- and then from the facts do what you need to do- either let it go or walk away. But make the decison for yourself and don't neglect yourself or your future.

He should talk to the girl. It isn't write for her to say things like that. He should consider your feelings.

I wouldn't worry too much. Has your guy been friends with this girl for a long time? It's his friend's GF, after all--I wouldn't stress. He's engaged to you because he wants to be with YOU. It sounds like you know this girl, does she seem like she's shady? Maybe it's worth it to get to know her better. It doesn't sound like your BF is trying to hide anything--obviously, you know about the texts and you've discussed them.
There are many different versions of love. I have several guy friends that I've known for ages that I love (my best friend's little bro, my childhood friends, etc)--and I tell them so. It's not (and never has been) romantic love. They're like brothers. My fiance has gotten to know my guy friends and he thinks they're pretty damn lovable, too.

this is completely NOT ok. time to open up a can of whooparse!

No it is not OK especially if she has text these things to him several times. It is disrespectful to you.

It seems a bit odd. Does he have an especially close relationship with her? For instance, did they grow up together or something? Is she someone who expresses love easily (says 'I love you' to almost everyone)? If the answer is yes to any one of the above, then I wouldn't worry about it too much, but if not I would explore it. I understand you're comfortable with the fact that he isn't cheating, but maybe tell the friend how you feel and that you're confused about what's going on. It can't hurt to talk to her, especially since you'll likely be around them a bit with your fiance. Good luck!

If she's hiding her relationship with your boyfriend from hers...then, you should be suspicious.

If he says, "Don't worry about it," while he's going over there when her boyfriend isn't there...I'd worry.

If she's cheating...she has to have someone to cheat with. If he's spending time with her, alone..without you..he's cheating too. And, it IS after all, his ex girlfriend.

I'm not saying that this is the honest to God truth, here. But, if you did some investigating on your own, you could find out for yourself.

it's defiantly wrong
she shouldn't be leading him on like that
and she probably is not happy with
her relationship with her boyfriend,
and wants some comfort from a (im thinking is a good guy? right) like your fiance. shes the jealouse one. when she texts him text him " babe , your the apple of my eye " or something sweet like that. :)

it is definitely not okay, or if i was in this situation it would not be okay, and vice versa. just the way this girl puts things "jordan isn't here we should hang out" why cant thing hang out when he IS there?? If they were such "good friends" then this wouldn't even come out of that girls mouth...maybe i'm just skeptical on situations such as these....but it doesn't seem right, at all.

And I agree with the others, if he really had you as his first priority in ya'lls life and relationship then he would tell her "hey look, i'm happily engaged, my fiance doesn't like it, and neither do i" and that should be the end of it.

but because he hasn't...makes me even more skeptical, he could be just telling you about them for you to do just as you did and say "but he tells me about them, so he has to be telling the truth" ..........not so much.

No, it is not okay. This girl has a problem. Ask her to watch her tone with your fiancee.

She is out of line, and it sounds like she's hitting on him. And he sounds clueless. He's so into you he hasn't even picked up that her hints are, in fact, "hints." So you have a great boyfriend. You just have to let him know that she's crossing the line and try to point it out to him of how she's flirting. How it would be different if it were actually innocent. Guys don't pick up the subtleties as well as girls do. And then let the girl know, in no uncertain terms, to back off. He might feel like you're overreacting if you don't try to explain it to him first before you tell her off. It's a bit tricky, but she is completely hitting on him. He must be quite the catch!

THAT'S BS! Speak to her directly. Tell your guy to say something or you will. I would be the b**** that would tell her bf what she is doing.

i dont know the whole situation. but i wouldnt be happy.. and the kind of person that i am I WOULD personally tell her that it is not ok. i had to do this to my boyfriends ex gf because she couldnt or wouldnt take the hint from him. if it makes you feel uncomfortable then it needs to change. just out of respect for you. doesnt mean they cant be friends, it just means that she needs to realize that it isnt her place to talk like that to YOUR MAN. its yours and his relationship claim it, own it.

I didn't bother reading other responses but this sounds like this one chick friend of mine I've known for 3 years. Between stints of relationships we had "friend-sex", didn't go well, but somehow it didn't make things weird.

She constantly does the "I luv you", either in text or in person, despite my squirmy reactions it continues, I think she likes watching me tense up like that, and I have even talked to her about it...it's just her way, even though it kind of devalues the phrase in my opinion.

Just tossing in my experience with a similar sounding incident.

no

Sounds like cheating to me. But hey, look how you presented the question.

No that is not okay. Very easy question. I believe my wife would cut my balls off if that were to happen. trust is just an opportunity handed out on a silver platter to cheat. I work with plenty of guys who cheat on their wives ALL the time because their wives trust them so much. If something feels off, it's usually because IT IS. Trust your feelings first dear.

F$#@ NO!!!! That girl has no respect for you as a person, has no care that you are his fiance, and she WILL eventually do something to get his attentions! I would tell him, if he wants to keep a healthy relationship between the two of you, he needs to stop the UNHEALTHY actions and emotions she is causing! You have every right to call her, tell her you feel disrespected and insulted by her over affectionate behavior, and you would appreciate it if she would please stop texting him altogether. If she gets loud, or "catty" with you, then I'd get nasty. Warning! It will cause a night in jail, but I would go to her, ask her again, then when she gets all "Big and Puffy" to you, just headbang her hard in the nose. It will put her down at least for 3 to 6 seconds. Violence is said to solve nothing, but it has gotten a **** or two away from my man!

I WOULD ASK HIM WHY HE DOESN'T WANT YOU TO CONFRONT HER AND I WOULD TELL HIM THAT HE NEEDS TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT OR YOU WILL SAY SOMETHING TO HER..IF HE FLIES OFF THE HANDLE THEN I WOULD TELL HIM THAT IF SHE DOESN'T STOP TEXTING HIM YOU WILL ALWAYS BE WONDERING WHAT IS GOING ON..WHY SHOULD HE GIVE YOU A REASON TO QUESTION...TELL HIM TO NIP THIS IN THE BUD OR YOU WILL AND IT WON'T BE PRETTY!!...I DON'T KNOW, THAT IS JUST HOW I WOULD HANDLE IT...BUT GOOD LUCK K?