Forgive them, let them move on and basically, forget about them.
No, if someone hurts you badly many other times, you should stay away from such a hateful person, unless you're a masochist. Something is badly wrong with anyone who hurts anyone so many times. If so0meone hurts me once, I may forgive him if he is sorry. If he does it again, I'm gone, because it's surely his habit to hurt people. He's a sadist in other words.
Some people always forgive because they love the person that much but its possible to get addicted to being let down by that person
Yes, I forgive much more easily than I forget, however.<br />
Forgiveness depends on the other person being genuinely sorry, however. If they are not remorseful, and show no sign of changing whatever factors led them to do what they did, than forgiveness just doesn't work for me -- I won't forgive them, period.
You need to find protection from victimization, and depending on the situation. It is very different for instance to "forgive" someone like a relative for molesting you than it is to "forgive" and ex-romantic partner for something. Forgiving doesn't mean opening up to more victimization, even in a "romantic" relationship. I realized that with my first husband. I came to understand that it wasn't good for him to be able to get away with continuing his abusive behavior on me. That was many years ago and now, after so many years, I really have no feelings one way or another about him....and that means i worked through any issues with him and also he has absolutely no power to hurt me again.
Sure its ok to forgive ...if u get a THRILL off being hurt so much o.O
Maybe yes, but I don't think I can forget.
That is your choice to make. I spouse's son, I will never forgive. He is banned from my home for the rest of his (or my) life. He worked hard to earn his status.
To forgive allows healing.
To forgive, allows them to victomize you again.
Yes... This could happen, should you be foolish enough to not learn from their actions.
Being too forgiving allows hurting to continue, so it can never heal.
the key is you have to Forgive in order to Forget i know from what i have been through in the past , want to know what went on? i have stories and its the very first one i wrote when i joined EP . title: am i really that disgusting?
I shall not forget, because I don't want to do so.
Forgiving someone does not mean accepting that they hurt you. Sometimes you forgive a person for what they did to you, but move on. Forgiveness is a beautiful thing on both ends if both people are sincere. I am grateful and feel very lucky that I have been forgiven for things I did not expect anyone to forgive me for. It made me a better person and taught me a lot about love, understanding, loyalty, trust, soo many things.It is nothing if you give forgiveness to a person who isn't really sorry and continues to hurt you again.
Being betrayed and victomized, three times, has taught me some things too. Forgiving that person, isn't one of them.
Hopefully it didn't teach you to be bitter and resentful. Victimized three times that says a lot. Even if I have to move on I always forgive who ever hurt me. I don't have to look back. I can't move on otherwise because I would carry hatred and baggage.Hatred and baggage are like poison.
To each their own... i guess....
Yes, it is ok to forgive the evil and love the person still.
It's insane to love a sadist.