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Is it okay to not share passwords with spouse?
Posted 4 months ago
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I feel that when two people get married, they are sharing the rest of their lives together as one. With this merge comes the very foundations in which a marriage can successfully coexist.
The first thing being Christ, for without Him, we are nothing!
The second being communication. If we fail to talk to one another expressing our feelings and desires, then a sense of selfish insecurities will start to form and will eventually lead to actions desired by no marriage.
The third thing is Trust. This is an important tool that needs to be exercised in every marriage. You trusted the person enough to marry them; To share the rest of your lives with them. Why would you want to hold anything from them? If you truely love your partner, then there should be no secrets from them, and by allowing them into "your space" you are growing "TOGETHER" as a marriage should.
Love the time you have together, get to know them better, show an interest in them, actually look at them (really look).... they are the beautiful person that you fell in love with.
If you take the first step in giving, then the door of oppourtunity is open for them to give as well.
In my humbold opinion...If you withhold information from your "other half" (spouse) in secret, then you are only inviting lies and deceipt into your home, marriage, & family. Nothing good will come out of it except corruption.
I end wit a quote we all have heard. They are powerfull words and life changing if we head to them.

"Do unto others as you want them to do unto you"

I love you and God bless,

Your brother in Christ.
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Posted Sep 6th, 2008 at 4:43AM
Yes, unless it's the password required to ENTER the house; then it's rude.
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Posted Sep 6th, 2008 at 4:43AM
yes, you do not have to share every little tiny thing with each other, regardless of what others may say. I have MY laptop password protected. I have personal journals that I wish to keep that way....I share when and if I chose to share. I am my own person first, a couple second.
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Posted Sep 6th, 2008 at 4:43AM
It is absolutely OK... if your spouse needs to know something, you would tell them. Love= Freedom, trust and honesty.
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Posted Sep 6th, 2008 at 4:44AM
My spouse and I do not share our passwords with each other. Being married doesn't mean you give up the right to privacy.
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Posted Sep 9th, 2008 at 7:04PM
it entirely depends on why you want to keep it secret.

If it is just a matter of keeping a little individual space...then no problem at all.

If there is something you might not want them to see......not so ok.
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 4:55PM
I assume you mean passwords for things like email, voicemail, that sort of thing? I say, yes, it's okay not to share passwords. That simple act is not bad. When you are interacting with friends, there can be things they confide only to you, that they wouldn't want your spouse to read. But if the reason behind that is to keep a part of your life secret from them, that's a problem.
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 5:55PM
yes, I think so. My husband doesn't know my passwords and it's not a problem. He respects my privacy and I respect his.
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 8:55PM
Yes, everyone needs secrets, it keeps us interesting. a little mystery is a good thing.
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 8:58PM
It certainly is fine not to share your passwords with anyone else. Although in a relationship- every person deserves some amount of privacy. I feel the only reason my guy would want my password is if he doesn't trust me for some reason. I will log on and let him look around anytime but no he cannot have my password.
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 9:25PM
Definitely it's more than okay in my opinion. Even if I was the most in love with my husband I'd never share my passwords with him. Just like I wouldn't let him see me go to the bathroom. I mean some things you just have to keep private. And a spouse doesn't always understand. Like if you're in a mood and you need to flirt - then it's okay, you're not hurting anyone if you're on the Internet. But the minute a spouse gets that information - they go crazy, (either gender). Like an old friend of mine used to say, "What they don't know doesn't hurt them....what they do know...they worry about." So let it be. Just my opinion though - you know your relationship best, but as for me - no way - they don't need to peer into every facet of my life, just because we're married. I'm not letting my spouse see me get my hair done either - is that something that's a big deal????
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Posted Sep 5th, 2008 at 10:37PM
No, I don't think it's ok. I understand this as a matter of TRUST. You should trust your spouse enough to share your password, I mean it shouldn't be anything concealed between you two; and your spouse should trust you enough to not to use it, your not a child, you don't need to be under surveillance.... other than that I agree with ElLagarto :)
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Posted Sep 6th, 2008 at 9:30AM
if there is trust then nothing can go wrong and if there is no trust and a lot of room for doubts and misunderstandings, then it is better you keep your pwd with your self.
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Posted Sep 7th, 2008 at 3:48AM
LOL i shared my password to my sister before, i told her to sent emails to my friends if I DIE.. :P now i changed it and still instructed her to look for my contacts in case my life ends at any given day..

as for the spouse, well.. privacy is directly proportional to trust and invertly proportional to doubt and malice..
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Posted Sep 7th, 2008 at 5:43AM
I think it's completely OK not to share passwords with your husband/boyfriend/partner.

My fiance doesn't know any of my passwords and I don't know any of his.

Just because you choose to share your life doesn't mean you give up your right to privacy.
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