A true BEST friend and someone who really loves you would not have done it so adios to both
I'd forgive them, but would wonder how I could trust them again...with anything?
With friends like her, who needs enemies!
im sorry but of course ur bff will be like im sorry cuz its more of a sorry that she knows she did wrong not cuz she actually felt like saying sorry u know! if she was truelly sorry and if she truelly loved you she will stop it but she didnt n imagine if would of kept going! to be honest she wasnt a true friend and u shouldnt just be oh its cuz my friend is like that noo hes like that cuz people like u believe everything
if she was really drunk back then. then it`s okay but if she was just being manipulated then u can`t trust her that doesn`t mean u have to leave her just stay friends not best friends till she proves that she is trust worthy again to u and for ur boyfriend when u see him next time spit on his face and leave him and u will feel great
It depends on your relationship and what you want out of it.... also, how you came to learn about it (was she honest, was he?)
Years ago my best friend slept with the guy I was dating and had really liked a lot. I was well aware that my friend was very promiscuous but I really didn't care. Anyway, the day after - she told me about it. She told me I could do better than him, because even though it was HER who came on to him, it took all of 10 minutes to convince him. She told me she'd set up a date with him that weekend and wanted me to go - to make him feel like an a$$. I said okay, we went... there he sat with ANOTHER woman on his lap (that turned out to be his wife... we decided she could keep him)
We said nothing to him, we went out bar hopping and had a good time that night. We left him in the past - he was not worth losing my best friend over. It's been over 20 years since that incident, we are STILL good friends and he is an ancient memory.
What do YOU want to do?
It depends on how long you've been friends, how good a friend she was to you previously and if you could ever see it happening again. You're well rid of him, but a true friend would never have considered touching her best friend's partner, no matter how beguiling he might be. If you do forgive her, keep your eyes open.
Boys will come and go, and they usually do that in exactly that order. Sorry to be crass but it's the bold and painful truth. Guys don't want girlfriends, but they do like having a person they know they have good odds of having sex with, if the tradeoff is monogamy, they'll bite that bullet. The thing is, they're only as faithful as their options. I would choose a best friend over any guy. If Halle Berry can get cheated on, we all will get cheated on. We women really need to figure ourselves out, and stand together because when the men cheat, we're all we have left. If a boyfriend gets his girlfriend pregnant, 10 to 1 says he runs as fast as his legs will carry him. If a best friend finds our her best friend is pregnant, 10 to 1 says she'll be there through the finish line; from birth to graduation. I have several friends, married, unmarried, whatever... we all have kids, we all struggle together. We stick together. Lovers truly come and go. But we know when the lights go out, we all head over to Heather's with food, water, flashlights and blankets and we wait out the storm together. Best friends are worth fighting for... even when they screw up BAD.
You have to be a strong person to forgive someone in that type of situation, but even if you do it doesn't make you weak. To forgive is to say you're passed that situation. There are far worse situations in life than a friend sleeping with a bf. Forget the bf. if you want to forgive your best friend that's nobody's business but yours.
it will take time but you will gorgive because she is your best friend glasd you kicked him to the curb theres more fish then him in the sea but not to many best friends
You obviously didn't really love him- or you wouldn't get over it so easily--but she knew what she was doing, and she didn't think of your feelings one little bit. A 'best friend' wouldn't go there.
Dump the guy...keep the BFF. She was played. Not really her fault.
Forgiveness is hard, but if she is truly sorry; it's your obligation to give it and move forward. Your friendship likely may never be the same, but there is a chance it would grow stronger. She may find a way to rebuild your trust and affection if you both get past it.
btw-he is your former boyfriend. You may need to get that set in your mind.
I had difficulty reading that because of the grammar sorry for being pedantic..Anyways she done the nasty on you & your friendship so I would say find a new best friend cos she aint all that..
Then I suppose the latter is me that is what I have learned today. lol
Sounds like an opportunity for a FMF menage-a-trois. Carpe Diem!
I wouldn't respect lesbians, but women who enjoy sharing a man are hot, and a lot of fun.
ahh.. she better run fast if she will do that to me.. bcoz if I find it out il make sure she will lose all her hair! and I will break up my bf too!
I guess you can forgive her, but I imagine it would be hard for you to trust her again.
-- By the way, I find it humorous how you referred your boyfriend as an "it" in the beginning.
I don't know. I'd probably forgive her, but I don't think the relationship would be the same after.