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Is it possible to make a marriage work where there is no love?

Update:16th April
Thanks everyone who has answered so far.
I am just curious because my husband has told me he doesn't love me, and doesn't seem to be able to answer whether he ever did, rather than "sort of".
I was madly in love with him at first..and for many years waited for him to take more than a passing interest.For a couple of years now I have come to realise that my love for him has died completely.....yet he is the one who now says we "should" have a go at sorting it.I do wonder though if it is because he can then say he was the one who wanted to make things right if it comes to a split, though he would deny this.I have health issues that have meant I'm dependent on him, and he needs the house for his work so we are stuck.*heavy sigh*
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That is a easy question to answer, but a hard question to ask. If there is no love, then there is no relationship. A marriage will become a prison sentance. You should leave. But as you go, ask yourself what happened and why it happened and be on guard against making the same mistake again. I am not saying it is your fault, but whatever the dynamics were that resulted in a marriage is what you need to be aware of. Good luck.
Posted 7 months ago

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Sapphie2010
Posted Apr 15th, 2009 at 5:09PM
It will be very lonely
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SeraphicWannabe
Posted Apr 15th, 2009 at 5:09PM
It is inevitable that you will make your marriage work when there is no love... let me rephrase... without love, your marriage turns into work
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Celainn
Posted Apr 15th, 2009 at 5:09PM
I think the more important question is: why would you WANT to??
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mzkaylz
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:47AM
You can make anything work when you want to. It's just the question of, is that what marriage is & is that how it works well?
You & your husband could both agree that you couldn't find anyone else, you might want to agree to be together for your kids. I'm not saying this is the right thing to do, but it may work for you.
I've seen alot of people do it unfortunately. Only thing is.. are you going to be happy with just 'making it work'?
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enna30
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:48AM
The simple answer my dear friend is "No". It will never be "enough" and YOU deserve better. Who knows why your husband married you? It seems inexplicable to me when I read that people actually got married when not in love. . .And I know you loved him and still do.
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Smokeseek
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:50AM
I am doing just that. It really sucks. It's a choice I made (for me) b/c I can't bear the thought of not seeing my children all the time. Let me tell you, I deserve so much more than my wife offers me. Hell, these days, if woman, any woman, is merely nice to me, I am practically in love with them.
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drix
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:50AM
Why would you want to?
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stubborn411
Posted Apr 14th, 2009 at 8:58PM
yes. It is called a business marraige. It is when people marry but have no feelings fo each other. They live separate lives and have barely any contact.
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jazman13
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:48AM
That's a pretty difficult thing to do. From self experience, you just drift more and more apart the longer you stay in the marriage.
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Entr0py
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:48AM
Sure, if there is a mutual desire/effort to make things work.
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MadamGypsy
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:48AM
No....my marriage didnt work and there was plenty of love.
Love has nothing to do with it!
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SimpleSimonette
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:49AM
It's possible to do anything, if you set your mind to it - but I think the real question would be is it worth it?
Love can be wonderful, why would you want to spend your life in a relationship that doesn't offer that? Though I understand there are circumstances that can lead to living in a life without love - why would you make the conscious choice to do so?
Since your question offers no details, I hope that you have control over the situation you find yourself in, because it may be possible but it isn't easy.
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underconstruction
Posted Apr 15th, 2009 at 12:41PM
Sure. You can hire an attorney to turn your relationship into a profitable business association if that is what you mean.
But if you are talking of making your marriage work ( without love) not a chance in hell.
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geenpunchbuggie
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:49AM
no, it is not. give up already and leave!
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NaomiZero
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:49AM
if you mean there is no "romantic" love, then i still think it's very possible to make it work (although it might not be as satisfying)
however, i don't think two people can be happy together without a bond of love, even if it is only love among friends.
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Duana
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:49AM
no. But it is totally possible to bring love into a marriage that has none.
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mistyeyedlass
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:51AM
nO. it won't ever work taht way.
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JacquesPierre
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:51AM
Can we say boring *** room mates?
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singer1960
Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 2:51AM
Yes....It is called being room mates.....

I have not told my husband yet...But that is where I am right now....But I hope that will change....It has in the past....So I think that it will once more
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