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wasmessedup
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Is it possible to stop yourself from falling in love?
Posted 1 month ago
Duana
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YES! Because in most cases it is not actually true love to begin with.

And once you do, especially if it is in a situation
where it could harm another person (ie an affair) than you will realize later after you have struggled with doing the right thing that it was most likely not love after all- but infatuation. You will also have grown in character (and I mean 'really grown'- not just learning a lesson), and you will be amazed at what you have become.

Another reason it is possible to stop such a situation- is because it would be impossible that this is a situation of true love. True love in it's very definition would never ever hurt anyone else- ever. Love doesn't hurt.

Another reason it is possible to stop yourself from falling in love is because at the very heart of love is free will. If you can't stop it long enough to make your own choice about it- it is not really love- you are being swept away by something else.

Duana
Posted 1 month ago
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Rob22make3
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 6:34PM
No. Why do you think we call it "falling"?
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peterson1964
Posted Nov 11th, 2008 at 11:14PM
If you are asking if it is possible for the mind to triumph over the heart, my personal experience and observations would indicate that the heart does as it wants. No logic or reason can influence its behavior.

The heart will whine and cry like a baby when it wants something... especially, something that it cannot have. You can try to comfort it, but in the end, when it gets out of control, and cannot be silenced, you must take it out of the room and away from that which it is crying for. Otherwise it will just disturb everyone else and make your life miserable. LOL

Good luck with that.
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bunnydrop
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 2:37PM
yes i guess you could.but you would have to walk away from the person you may be falling for ,for good
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rusted
Posted Nov 11th, 2008 at 11:15PM
Yeah, it is. Bunnydrop is right, walk away and never go back.

Once I read this on a blog: Falling in love easy, climbing out is the hard part.
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levin60kitty
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 10:28PM
Everyone said NO. I disagree. What you do is have someone lock you in your room so you never come out. have them block the windows so you can't see out. Don't have any TV (you can fall in love with a TV personality. You won't fall in love but you willprobably go crazy. If this fails you undoubtedly have an alien chip implanted in your brain.
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MizzBlue72
Posted Dec 3rd, 2008 at 1:26AM
No - it's not.
I think that everyone who says that the head can win over the heart is lying to themselves.

You can run away -- but the feelings; they will get less.
But they will always be there.
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puck61
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 1:51PM
No
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heidistelzig
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 1:54PM
No! I tried when I met my boyfriend I didn't want a serious relationship and never wanted to get married and the more we hung out and our first kiss oh my god I couldn't stop it my heart took over and here we are and I am glad it worked out that way.
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Smokeseek
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 1:57PM
You can deny the feeling, but you can never prevent it. It pulsates in every cell of your being.
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biscuits
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 2:56PM
Well, you could practice detachment, but, that would be pretty lonely if it included everyone.
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Tinkerbell2
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 3:13PM
sure just grab something else and don't let go.
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mags681
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 4:43PM
no you love or you don't easy
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Katkitswt1
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 4:57PM
I don't think so. There are a couple of men that were very special to me and I still think of them often. It's been over 25 years :)
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wiseowl
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 5:49PM
Yes you can. Walking away early is the trick. Hanging around and still saying " we can be friends", doesn't work. I believe distance gives perspective
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RobertHedrock
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 7:22PM
It's really simple. Love as we call it, is merely a chemical response to the proximity of the person we desire. So, if you never see them, you can't fall in love with them. Simple!

But what if it's someone you work with? You would have to change your job.
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hYou
Posted Nov 10th, 2008 at 10:28PM
I've always wondered about this too...

so why do people get so angry if it's inappropriate? Fair enough they most definately shouldnt act on their feelings if it isn't "right" and there is a big difference between acting and feeling, but is it really a persons fault?

Wow... so I guess it never gets any easier, even with the wisdom that comes with age!
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hojex
Posted Nov 11th, 2008 at 12:45AM
yes you can choose to elect to stand in love with the right man rather than the person you are not sure whether he or she is your future spouse.guide your heart with all dilligence for out it comes the isues of life.
the sorry state of marriages today with so many living in sexles marriages is a consequence of this" falling in love"
of course when you fall into a hole the natural thing is to fall out when you discover you have fallen into a trap.

im a lawyer who will not waste a second to help those who discovered they have fallen into a hole called marriage to get out fast.it is what GOD has joined together that must not be put asunnder and cannot even be put asunder.luckily the couples seeking divorce are so sure GOD did not joined them,they merely fell in love and it is time to fall out.it is such a nice thing being a divorce lawyer.you may go ahead and fall in love,i will be richer down the line.
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