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  1. bijouxbroussard - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by bijouxbroussard May 30th, 2012 at 8:07PM

    I don't think it is. One's choice of date or mate is the most personal choice there is. It's racist to attempt to forbid OTHERS from dating someone based on race.

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  2. CreateTVT - 22-25 years old

    Posted by CreateTVT May 30th, 2012 at 8:03PM

    It would be racist to not date someone because of there race, you just prefer a specific type.

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  3. BarvoDelancy - 31-35 years old - male

    Reply by BarvoDelancy May 30th, 2012 at 8:23PM

    Bingo.

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  4. BarvoDelancy - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by BarvoDelancy May 30th, 2012 at 8:28PM

    Well, sort of.

    It's not racist to find that you're attracted to people of a certain ethnic and cultural background. That's perfectly normal. Like attracts like. Where you run into trouble is by making grand statements about race and trying to qualify them.

    Example:

    "I only date white women."
    "Why? What's wrong with Korean women?"

    The moment you start answering that you're on shaky ground. We all make mental short cuts and stereotype. Your job is to think past those stereotypes and judge people based on their individual qualities rather than your past experiences of people who might share their skin colour. If you spend the rest of your life only attracted to women from one sort of background - no biggie. It's about an attitude, not who you actually end up dating.

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  5. MrsJoanieBNH - 56-60 years old

    Posted by MrsJoanieBNH May 30th, 2012 at 8:03PM

    Your attracted to what you are attracted to! end of race batting discussion!

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  6. energeez - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by energeez May 30th, 2012 at 8:03PM

    last time i answered this i got blocked.

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  7. prsnlzd - 36-40 years old

    Posted by prsnlzd Dec 3rd, 2012 at 11:23AM

    Though notions of racial supremacy are always racially prejudiced, the other way around isn't necessarily true. Racial prejudice isn't exclusively based in supremacy vs. inferiority. Example: "All asians enjoy rice." This is an actual racial prejudice even though it represents no concept of Asians being better or worse as people than anyone else.

    What many don't seem to quite grasp is that the meaning of the phrase "racial prejudice" is, literally, a pre-judgement of others predicated on race. It’s not limited to only certain "areas" of racial "pre-judgement," or prejudice. Racial pre-judgement can inform our sensibility toward unknown/unseen individuals (in other words, absent true personal experience of said individual) in the presumptive assessment of an individual's potential for "areas" including, but not limited to inferiority, superiority, culture, personality, level of attractiveness, dietary preferences, intelligence, morality, sense of humor, political beliefs, extra-curricular activities, sexual preferences, relatability, height, etc., etc..

    Thus, when one has a pre-judged belief *predicated on race* about how an individual *not yet presented* would *presumptively* be assessed in "x" types of ways... merely substituting this presumed "x" with "level of potential attractiveness or appeal" does not change the fact that it's still a presumption, a pre-judged notion, which is undeniably based... on race... as this racial pre-assessment/judgement is, indeed, the very factor informing and maintaining one's pre-held notion of their "personal preference."

    Illustration-
    Question: "How do you know 'so-and-so' won't be attractive to you if you've yet to even meet or see 'so-and-so?'"
    Answer: "Because I found out what 'so-and-so's' race is. And since I wasn't attracted to the other people I've seen or met so far who were of this race, I know without seeing or meeting, how attractive so-and-so will prove be, too."
    Follow-up: "But since you've never seen nor met 'so-and-so', how do you know this particular person won't end up looking/seeming attractive once you have?"
    Close: "Because there's one situation in which I don't need to actually see what one specifically looks like or seems like, to know before-the-fact, how attractive they could feasibly end up being regardless the degree to which their unique feature make-up would or wouldn't influence their appearance. You see, I'm able to simply pre-judge this if I hear ahead of time that they are of a certain race... because that, right there is, already, all that I need to know."

    So, yes, it truly, truly is "personal preference" which, yes, truly can be influenced by many factors. The above merely demonstrates the specific kind of personal preference that happens to truly be influenced by instincts, emotions, perceptions, and presumptions that are admittedly and by definition, **somewhat prejudiced by race.

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  8. prsnlzd - 36-40 years old

    Reply by prsnlzd Dec 3rd, 2012 at 12:40AM

    **(CONT.)** It's inescapable that we each have flawed, imperfect character in different ways, which just makes us human. So of course one's honest personal dating preference, including one of this nature, no where near automatically makes someone a bad or malicious person. It is simply to say that, if we're really are being honest, nor is the character of such personal preference truly and completely free of any and all racially prejudiced influence. Consider the following: “I’m not racially prejudiced against hiring white people. Hiring white people is simply my *personal preference.*” As you can see, having a personal preference based on race, not only does NOT negate a racial prejudice, but, indeed, merely DEFINES ONE FORM OF OR EXAMPLE THAT racial prejudice can sometimes take. The previous one just happens to be indulged in a way that inherently infringes upon the civil rights of all to have equal opportunity to employment. Yet, the enforcement of fair civil rights laws, still won’t force the employer not to FEEL this racially prejudiced preference. Nor should we expect it to. Much less should we expect him to marry someone outside said characteristic if his racially prejudiced personal preference extended to his romantic feelings. Nor, for anyone’s sake, would anyone at all ever want him too. People are allowed to date and/or marry within the boundaries of a racially prejudiced personal preference, however much a sign of their flawed character it may truly be. But it still doesn’t infringe of anyone’s else’s marrying rights, obviously because who, outside of another’s racially prejudiced personal preference would want to be romantically involved with said person? In any event, despite how completely justifiably off-putting such flaws may be to many or most, unfortunately, someone being, to any degree at all, somewhat subject to the influence of culturally and/or socially embedded racial prejudice is merely one of many varieties of potentially subconscious psychological character flaws one may not be able to fully escape within oneself, even, sometimes, despite one’s deepest, conscious, most heartfelt psychological wishes to be otherwise. And to be fair, we all have character flaws of the inescapable nature, whatever ours may specifically be. So, at least outside of actual hatred, where ever your subconscious may, frankly, happen to lay on the spectrum, just keep the following in mind: Endeavor to improve upon and rise above the flaws you can. For the one's truly you can't despite earnest efforts, maybe don't beat yourself up over them, if you know that you truly try. But, also, **DO NOT "SPIN" NOR DENY THEM** to make yourself FEEL better. For it'll only invalidate and further frustrate those who can perceive that you're doing just that. Rather, just have honest empathy for those whom your unavoidable, imperfect flaws may understandably hurt or affect in some negative way, as well as for your potentially frustrated inability to be perfect in always preventing this, yet while still knowing that this, too, is understandable since no one ever will be perfect in this endeavor. And most importantly, as character flaws are, indeed, unavoidable in each of us, just try your best to not date the people who may fundamentally, understandably conflict with the unchangeable ones you know you have, nor to date the people who have ones that may conflict with you, in kind. Have honest awareness of yourself, genuine empathy for others, and forgiveness and respect for both. Happy Holidays.

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  9. JulianSavier - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by JulianSavier May 31st, 2012 at 9:58AM

    well if its "I prefer to date so and so", than no... but if its "i will only date so and so" than yes it is

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  10. lostinmyownhome - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by lostinmyownhome May 30th, 2012 at 10:56PM

    Is it so different than only dating blondes? Some people have specific preferences, that's all.

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  11. blingblogbloop - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by blingblogbloop May 30th, 2012 at 8:19PM

    For some its the way they are raised, i think one can never find truly love if you limit yourself to one race, I have friends like that. Me on the other hand think there is beauty in all race, love is blind

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  12. 555calif - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by 555calif May 30th, 2012 at 8:08PM

    Like Jerry said to George in a "Seinfeld " episode when he was getting ready to go on a date with a Chinese women , "It's not racist if you like them."

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  13. beenbad - 36-40 years old

    Posted by beenbad May 30th, 2012 at 8:05PM

    NO, but people of that race will probably think you are.

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  14. dustypork - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by dustypork May 30th, 2012 at 8:03PM

    In my opinion, only if the said race is different from your own. Like white guys preferring Asian women, or black guys preferring white women.

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  15. cooney55 - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by cooney55 May 30th, 2012 at 8:03PM

    Nobody really blames you. By and large, I prefer white girls too.

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  16. Scorpio1991 - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by Scorpio1991 May 30th, 2012 at 8:02PM

    not at all.

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  17. Durion23 - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by Durion23 May 30th, 2012 at 8:02PM

    I wouldn't say so. That's just what you find attractive.

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