You are not a "one night stand" child..... You are a "first night LOVE child.."...!
I am so pissed at your dad! and for the same reason I'm pissed at my mom for telling my brother that he is the product of a rape (a date rape, and knowing the motives of my mom even that is questionable). Any parent that airs that kind of dirty laundry onto their children doesn't deserve to be a parent!
Amen! Some things are just wrong, and this heads the list.
Harsh. Maybe he was just mad or joking?
the truth is always right
Even though what your father told you was painful to hear, that doesn't make you worth any less than any one else. A lot of legal marriages end in divorce, so even children born within marriage can be left without parents in the long run. It certainly isn't your fault when it comes to how you were conceived. Can you talk to your dad and ask him what his motive was for telling you? Maybe he just wanted you to know the truth. I think whether it is right or wrong would depend on his motive and the WAY he told you.
If it is the truth, I think it is right for him to tell you, as it is your right to know the truth.<br />
But of course it is of importance how he told you. It is not right to use this to blame you for their actions. According to what I read about your parents, conceiving you was probably the best thing they ever did.<br />
As for your place in this world: in those 15 years of your life, I'm sure you made many friends. And you helped them, when they were in trouble. So for them the world would most likely be a whole lot worse without you. You made a difference there. You are just as supposed to be here as everybody else!
that's rather inappropriate for a father to say to a kid, no matter what age the kid is. but don't get too upset by it, many people weren't a planned pregnancy (i certainly wasn't). but regardless of what he claims you and your mother are, you have to give him credit for trying to step up and be a man by marrying your mother, even if it did end in divorce. My dad already had a ten year old kid with an ex when he knocked up my mom, and he disappeared like Houdini the moment he heard the news. Words hurt, but at least it gives you insight into who he is. Now you know he's not a good role model :P
Of course it isn't right. Whether he is 'joking' or being serious there are so many levels of wrong here. The most basic is deliberately hurting a human being, esp one that is your blood. You are in horrible situation that I think can only be resolved by being removed permanently from that situation. Good luck, dear. I wish I could grab you up and protect you myself. Also had bad childhood.
No and no.
YIKES,, u got 1 hella of an ******* daddy girl,,, way harsh he said those things about both u and ur mom. I can all understand how devestated you feel,,,,
Okay. He told you. I guess that, honestly, it's his right to tell you, but it sounds like it was said out of spite. I'd say he's a jerkface for doing that. But I guess, then it's your right to live as well as you can to spite him. They didn't want you there, but you showed up anyways because YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO GIVE THIS WORLD, DARNIT! It is so your right to be here. The way I see it, you decided you were going to be here and do your thing, and you're fighting your circumstances to do your thing. Become the perfect and ideal version of you for your life and make it as good for you as you possibly can if only to spite your dad. Become something wonderful with a vengeance, and grow up and do something amazing. Maybe work to make sure that no one ever has to go through what you went through ever again.
This world is full of Little Boys, but few Real Men. I feel so Sorry for the Children of these Little Boys. A man loves his child unconditionally, no matter the circumstance surrounding their birth. A Real man puts his child's welfare above his own. A Real man takes responsibly for his actions and any and all consequences that result.
Do you have any best friends whos parents will take you in?
No, he's a jerk to tell you that, there's no reason you should've been made aware, because you're the innocent one in all of it.
I was a birth control baby. So what? The point is that I am here. The point is that you are here. It does not matter how you got here. Life is what YOU make it.
Well said. (doesn't help the hurt,, however, in the end, this is the path to take.)
oh hun, don't worry! why should you not have a right to be on this earth? ******* adolfe hitler was given life and that guy was a ****. take charge. live your live. we are all products of something. some good and some bad, but we are all here. my dad once said to me that my brother and i were the reason he starting being a junky. i was 14 and for a long time i believed it. now i see that he is just a ****** up person and i live my life not worrying about him and all the hurtful things he has said and done. time heals all wounds.
Oh, I'm sure it was said lovingly, jokingly. I've heard my sister and her husband of 35 years say something similar. She calls it "the one night stand that lasted 35 years". It's actually a term of endearment. No one, then or now has sex thinking "let's create a child".. in that sense none of us are really planned. Do they love you? Have they always taken care of you? Good enough.
!!! OMG are you serious? And you are still there? Is there no one you can go live with? I can't believe anyone could be so cruel.. I had no idea. Makes me wanna puke. You can come stay in my spare room, by god...and I'll whip anybody's *** that doesn't like it!
Oh! I didn't realize they hit you, I thought you meant they hit each other! (not that that would be okay) You need to go to the police, hun. Any home is better than an abusive home.
he could leave, couldn't he? the fact he's still around says something.
seriously? that f^cker. sorry sweetie. some people are just d^cks.
Personally, I don't think it says anything good.
I feel like... that's probably a joke...<br />
But if it was meant to be a one night stand and it turned into a life-long relationship, isn't that kind of cool? It's like fate.
Ohhh darling :(
That's awful. You have my deepest condolences.
Fate was that it turned in to a a life long relationship... cool though?? Fk no.