Is it the right decision?

i SERIOUSLY hope this is a troll post. and if it is not, then NO you should DEFINITELY NOT move to a foreign country with people you don't know. at 14, you don't know what love is, you don't know what a "very good friend" is. you are a CHILD. i don't care if you think that you live alone, you're a baby. stay in the UK, stay with your mom, find a nice boy at school and forget this foolishness.

What? OMG..Where is msnbc's perverted justice when you need them....

You are a minor....a very young minor.....He is an adult.....It is illegal in the states, for such a sexual relationship to occur....he could go to jail.....I cannot believe your mother would be so irresponsible, and let her baby (whether you want to think of yourself like that or not, you are a baby in the romance dept) go to another country, and live with an adult boy (he's not mature, either....at 18....it takes guys many years to get to maturity, and sometimes they never do).....Your mom isn't thinking of you....she is thinking of herself, clearly.

His sister agreeing to be your guardian? This whole story has disaster written all over it.....It would surely be something you'd regret for the rest of your life, at some point.....Stay put....work on your studies.....You are way too young to be in a sexual relationship with anyone.

You are too young for this major decision. Plz avoid it. You have to see more of life and people. How can you be dependent on somebody else. Yes, there is 100% chances that you will find someone more good, better, understanding person in life. Give time to yourself and life.

Wow. that's a tough one. Only you truly can decide if it's the right decision, but in my opinion 14 is very young to do anything that radical. has your relationship with your boyfriend always been long distance? if so, you may very well find the reality of seeing him all the time very different, even difficult. What if it doesn't work out for some reason? what would you do than? Really look at this seriously and objectively from every possible angle before making a permanent decision. Now, obviously I don't know you at all nor how mature you are for a 14 yr old, but I have 3 children, all teens a little bit older than you, and I would have very serious questions if my 14 yr old were dating, and even more so if her boyfriend was 18. My youngest is 16 and I wouldn't be happy if she were dating an 18 yr old! there can be a world of difference in maturity in just a few short years during your teens. I don't want to cast negativity on your situation, so please just bear in mind that VERY FEW relationships that begin at this young of age survive more than a few years. Of course there are always exceptions - so just think very long, very hard, and very objectively about your situation.

I agree with muddywaters. You are very young to make such an adult move. I hope I am not being rash, but you did ask for our opinion so here goes....With your being 14, you are possibly gonna be married and pregnant soon. ??If you are ready to be a mom/wife then yeah. If you do these things are going to move so fast that it will make your head spin! I would wait to I was at least 18 to move in with him. If he loves you he will wait for you. How long have you and your boyfriend been together? If it has been a long time then I believe your relationship could hold together long enough til you turn 18, but if you two have not been together that long then I would say you are jumping the gun. When I was at your age I probably would have jumped the gun too. We all have to learn from our mistakes. This move though is something you really need to do some soul searching about cause if you do it and it is the wrong decision you may live to regret it later. It could be a very expensive mistake. Please take care and I wish you all the best!!

no don't do it, your 14 years old, live your life, before becoming someone elses, you have adventers to face grown decisions to make, and living with his family will make you very un happy, being apart from him is hard, and at 14, life doesn't move fast enough, but if he loves you and you really love him and it's ment to be it will happen, and the fact that you doubt it shows your only 14, please understand every 14 year old thinks they're more muture then they are, please let yourself be a child and grow up before having to grow up,

I think it's the right decision if you are planning on being with your boyfriend for the rest of your life. Otherwise, you should just forget it because it's not worth the trouble.

Go for it girl follow your heart.

So..... Who would be paying the bills? Your b/f's sister?

Probably the stupidest arrangement I've ever heard of.

From what I've heard, U.K. High Schools are probably better than American High Schools anyway - especially southern American High Schools.

1. You finish high school in U.K.
2. Let B/F finish college in U.S.A.
3. If the relationship hasn't already faded into nothing by this time, have college grad b/f get a job, buy a house, and then bring you to U.S.A. to live.

Well for being 14 your grammar and spelling are already better then mine. :P

But honest answer I'd say no, Not becuase I doubt you or your boyfriends commitment, I always say Love has now age limits therefore we fool ourselves saying your to young to be in love.

BUT you being 14 you would be entirely to dependant on his sister and him, and I'm always look at things from the worst possible angle and it has to potential to be a dangerous situation.

I just don't think it is smart since you will only have him and his family to depend on. What if something goes wrong and they kick you out?? I definitely think you need to evaluate the situation. If you still decide to come here, you are legally allowed to work in the US, and you need to make sure you get a job. Just in case they throw you out. I don't know them, but I know there are alot of cruel people in this world. You're going to be thousands of miles away from home.

As for the person above who thought it necessary to make a stereotype about southern high schools, well, I graduated from one and I am perfectly fine. I got accepted into one of the best colleges in the country. It's people like that who are the real dummies, geez!

not a smart decision.

to be honset - the decision is entirely yours.
Are you making the right one? In my opinion - no. Why would you give up everything you have in the UK, for a guy, when you're only 14?
O.k.. handed to you. most girls at 14 are dependant and can make their own decisions. But you are only a child. It scares me a little that your mum has agreed to this.
Like you say.. you have to depend on his sister and him. what if you and him break up? what are your plans then? i suppose having to come back to the U.K. and start all over again. then you're back to square one.
It's one thing to make sacrifices for love, at 14, when the boyfriend lives down the road. Let alone pretty much the other side of the world.
I'm not saying you're too young to be in love. like the above said, love has no age limits. You are too young however, to be heading off the other side of the world to live, with no income, nothing to support you if all fails.
I don't know why you'd even consider this to be blunt.

Yikes, don't move there. What's wrong with your parents? Have they lost their mind?

NO NO NO. At 14, you should be enjoying life. YOU cannot become dependent on strangers. Wait untl you are an adult....18 or so and if you still feel the same, then discuss it. Honey at14 you are just a kid. Enjoy life...you have years ahead of you.

Human trafficking right here in America, just a s a previous post stated "you WILL be at the Mercy of those you will be living with" and when they get tired of you not contributing to the household (because you are a minor( then they will be ready to kick you out and you don't want to be homeless in the street. Watch the movie "taken" I had my teenagers watch it. It's an eye opener to some kids. I have a 17 and 14 year older and they will not leave my house moving in being a burden with nobody, they will be indepenant and one is going to college next year.