Is it unreasonable to want to sleep in separate beds? I don't need separate rooms, but I am really tired of (cont)

I can not sleep soundly or restfully with my boyfriend. I need my sleep at night, not cuddles , i wish he could understand that its nothing personal. its just sleep!

Good question and I think if it keeps marriage intact, do it. I was shocked when
I read how many couples sleep in different beds, many in different rooms. As
long as "she" could agree with my number of requested visits, it would be ok assuming there was a "sleep problem" for one or both. I once thought sleep was
much over rated, it is not!

As a husband, who is not a jerk, who caters to his wifes needs, and who after one year of marriage had his wife start sleeping on the couch six nights a week using diffetent excuses each night. Im going to say that there are some supremely faulty answers/thoughts here. Perhaps people need different levels of intimacy or have different goals within their marriage along with different needs. It is true that if one side (Husband or wife) has a need that is not being met, then emotional neglect is occuring. When the catering and sacrifices only flow one direction, or when one side does or says anything in order to get their way, you have a severely imbalanced situation. When one side is rejecting intimacy and not even expressing intiate needs then the other side should hire an investigator to follow them because we all have needs, when a wife stops needing intimacy that she needed before, im concerned that what she isnt expressing at home is being expressed soewhere else, with someone else. This is a reasonable fear. Im tired of people expecting husbands to be simpering cowards or to act like chamber servents. When a wife is like that they call the husband bad, when a husband is beat down, they think its payback.. women and men need to both wake up and seek equality. I still stand by my idea that a massive imbalance in intimacy and a lack of physical contact is a funeral announcement for a marriage. But on here there are wives being all cocky saying they will leave because the husband has a need to be near them, how insulting.. i bet you that if it was their husband saying sorry babe but you need to go sleep somewhere else, they would be pissed off at him.. sorry this is a hard topic for me.. when my wife is near she sleeps just fine. I am the light sleeper.. but she sleeps away so much, its destroying my faith in her. And my fear turns inward and hurts. How can someone be near but be so far away. Or say they love you, yet reject you so much.

Relationships work better when everyone is well-rested. I think this is a cultural expectation that can get in the way of one of our most primal needs: the need to sleep. Next time your husband tells you if you don't sleep in the same bed with him, you must not love him, tell him: If you don't care about my health enough to grant me the ability to have a good night's sleep, then you must not love ME that much. Geeze, you're pretty much unconscious when you're asleep anyway. Just cuddle before and in the morning! :-)

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