Is it wrong of me to feel upset about my girlfriend wanting to keep a couple of pics of her and her ex gf?
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Posted by babyjoon Jun 17th, 2012 at 3:28AM
It's never wrong of us to feel our feelings, the problems begin when we allow our feelings to dictate our actions. To quote the great "Simon Birch", "If we all went around doing what we felt like doing, there would be chaos." Your feelings are human, natural, and certainly understandable, however, so are the feelings of your girlfriend. She has a history that she wants to preserve, for whatever reasons are meaningful to her, and it is well within her right to do so. Remember, just as you own your very real and understandable feelings of discomfort, she has the right to own her ties to her past and / or her desire to record her own history. You will only be more lovable and desirable if your strength, maturity and confidence cause you to support or even ignore this. Besides, I agree with Tgilly, your not handling your jealousy will definitely cause a rift in the bond or flow between the two of you. If someone is in love with someone else and not you, the sooner you find out, the better and you won't be able to stop it, no matter how many pictures are destroyed. However, she is with you, and the two of them broke up for a reason. Probably the biggest, most probable threat to your relationship is your response (or lack of ) to this. Be the person you would want her to be if you wanted to keep something or do something or whatever , that required her understanding and secure and mature response. :) Good luck.
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Posted by Rawan5 Jun 17th, 2012 at 11:21AM
It's not wrong with you ! I'm a girl.. If I want to keep my ex bf pictures.. It means I still care & think about him !
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Posted by Oddandsingular Jun 17th, 2012 at 4:38AM
I think it's a bit insecure to be upset about her keeping a few pictures of someone she has a history with. It doesn't have to mean she still wants to be with her.
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Posted by FashionQueen86 Jun 17th, 2012 at 3:42AM
If it was my boyfriend I'd feel the same. But as long as he is over her, that's all that matters. But I think it's okay for people to keep their memories. If she was not truly over her ex, I don't think she'd be with you.
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Posted by mariusthered Jun 17th, 2012 at 3:12AM
look at it from her point of veiw . how would you feel if she told you not to keep pics of someone you cared about? . there is a song you might listen to on utube (walk a mile in my shoes by elvis)
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Posted by Tgilly Jun 17th, 2012 at 3:07AM
not really but she is an EX girlfriend..and your girlfriend had a life before you.
You need to get a handle on this or it'll create problems between you both.
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Posted by 3grnowl Jun 17th, 2012 at 3:07AM
Okay, I am not much of a picture person, but I know some people who use pictures as memories. Sometimes, it is okay to keep your memories to compare where you were then to where you are now. It is not that she necessarily misses her ex girlfriend, but that ex girlfriend has a piece of her heart and always will. It is what made her grow into the person you love today.
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Posted by iguanachips Jun 17th, 2012 at 3:05AM
No. If her ex bothers you, then surely there is more to it that a few pics.
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Posted by iatso Jun 17th, 2012 at 3:04AM
no.
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