Is it wrong to ask my mom to choose btwn me and her husband/ my dad?

Like silentvoices says, never make decisions when you're angry. Think about things once you've calmed down.

To be honest with you, I wouldn't want my mum around someone who illtreats her, so I think a conversation between you and your mum is needed. Your mum needs you so try not to make things hard for her in terms of pressurising or threatening her to either choose or lose you.

Support her by reminding her that she is strong and doesn't deserve or have to put up with being treated badly AT ALL. Tell her in an encouraging way something like "Mum, it's 2009 for crying out loud. Women don't take rubbish FROM ANYONE ANYMORE!"

Good luck! :P

Ok first thank you for adding more detail it's very helpful. Second I think you need to tell your mother everything about how you feel about him, how he treats you and her, everything, just in case you telling her all of it in one big go gets through to her that maybe she would live a happier life elsewhere. Then ask if she really is happy staying with him. If she is then I'm not sure there's anything else you can do for her, but like RobertHedrock said if you have somewhere safe to go then go, that's your choice.

If you have somewhere to go, leave. If not, you will just have to tough it out for a bit. I don't think it's worth asking your mom to choose because it sounds like she's perfectly content with the situation.

Yes, it's wrong.

No, its not wrong. At all. Your mother should be strong enough not to put up with that kind of behaviour. Best of luck.

Cream should NOT tell you that!!!!!!!!A parents job is to protect their kids. You should be protected. Is your mom afraid to leave???? I wish you well!!!

It should NEVER be a decision between your man and your children. Your children should come first every single time. I believe that God gives us children as a gift, to take care of and nurture until it is time for them to make their own way. Love does NOT hurt and if you or your mom are hurt in any way by this man, he does NOT love you. That may not be his fault however, he may not know how to love. But it is not your fault either. I think that if you Mother does not do what is in your best interest you must.

No it is not wrong to protect yourself from a joke for a father. Just because your mom puts up with his **** doesn't mean you have to. Make her choose but don't be surprise when she makes the wrong choice and remember it is not your fault you have to do what is best for you.

i dont think it would be right on usual circumstances-but yours is not. it is not right for anyone to demean another. i cant stand it. you shouldnt have to live like that. m she should stand up for you!