Is it wrong to feel hatred for your MOTHER?
25 Answers to "Is it wrong to feel hatred for your MOTHER?"
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hate is a feeling. feelings aren't right or wrong. they just...are.
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If she's mistreating you, absolutely not.
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I don't think so, I know that I sometimes feel that I want to never want to see her again. But I usually get over it after a little while.
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It is wrong to feel hatred. Full stop.
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Yes but when did THAT ever stop a child?
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feelings are never right or wrong, they just are.Your job is to figure out why you hate her. And don't blame all on one person to avoid admitting things that might wrong with you.Mothers are very good target.
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No. George Carlin talked about this once. A parent's responsibilities don't stop at birth. Respect and love for a parent should be EARNED, not automatic. Some parents are all-around terrible people.
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Hatred Or Love are both feelings you can't really control , so i don't think you can feel any guilt for either hating or loving anyone .. it's just something beyond our control most of the times ..
I personally hate both my mother and my father , my hatred though comes from a very good reasons , as good as i know so ..
so overall , no , it's totally and definitely not wrong .. if you believe they've done nothing to make you love them , then it's not at all wrong .. !Like (2)
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Mine actully went to my college and told the adviser that I wanted to be a teacher. When, in fact I wanted to be anything but. This was because she's too stupid to be in any kind of profession herself. So, she actully signed me up for courses I didn't need to take when I wasn't present. You see, a good mother would support their child's choices and let them be independant. Mine would'nt let me drive, date, or get a job when I was younger.
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No. Feel what you feel. Se has probably earned it.
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I PM'ed you something nice regarding this. Let me know what you think about it...
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Hate is such a strong emotion to have toward anyone maybe it isn;t so much that you hate her but rather hate something she she had done or said. Thats okay theres no law saying you have to love a parent
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No, but it feels wrong, doesn't it? Some mothers are down right evil. Do we ever actually hate anyone or do we just hate what they do? I try to love my mother but it usually backfires and she treats me like a piece of ****. I don't think people understand what it's like to be abused by your mother unless it has happened to you.
Anyway, it's best just to move on. I live far, far away from my mother and see her once or twice a year. I have blocked her emails because she becomes very abusive for no reason. This woman can make you wish you were dead.Like (1)
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nope.
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Unfortunately mothers dont come with a certificate.. for that matter neither do children... we all have to learn to live together.
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First of all, what exactly is "wrong"? Is there a test quiz that requires a right/wrong answer for hating your mother? Take the concept of "wrong" out of the picture: there is no such thing as right/wrong, and you sure don't need to be guilt-tripped and condescended to by people that think you are too stupid to know how you feel.
As for hating your mother, there are perfectly valid theories of the psychological conflict one has with their mother that makes such "hatred" a perfectly logical consequence. Most mothers really have no idea how to value their kids' independence. This is because they feel as though they will become obsolete when their kids no longer depend on them. So they exert subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) forms of control tactics that are designed to keep you dependent on them. Your "hatred" of your mother is a perfectly healthy reaction to such tactics and indicates a similarly healthy strive towards independence. In the book "Prescription for Rebellion", Dr. Robert Lindner elucidates this concept quite nicely: rebellion against the parent is a modern-day necessary reaction to parental tyranny and a prerequisite for growth.
Hopefully soon you will evolve to the next phase of your relationship with her, and move from hatred to avoidance.Like (1)
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free yourself. cut her off from your life..... even if it's for a little while. hopefully you will get that relaxing, stress free, freeing feeling like I did.
I moved states away.. and now she only comes to visit once a year and rarely calls.. because when she calls 24/7 I warn her. then block her number if she doesn't stop.
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In some cases she deserves it, but it's still wrong, and it will do a lot of damage to you. It's an affliction, but also an opportunity--rising above this. Character is like muscle : it develops through exertion.
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to be honest with you..no it isn't wrong..sometimes moms do stuff that makes us mad..i know my mom does alot of things i hate and hate her for it..but yea its not that wrong
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Posted by meteorite 1 Nov 30th, 2009 at 12:42AM
No-absolutely not. I used to hate mine-now I just dont care at all. They are not all warm and fuzzy, mine is downright nasty/selfish.
Dont know how old you are-but get on with your life without being influenced by mother dearest-thats what Ive done, and I am a lot happier.
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