Is my friend over reacting?

I forgotten I had organise outing with a friend. I appologised. I went straight over to their place to appologise. Not only did they not answer my calls or messages, they were home and did not even come out to see me. They knew I was outside their house because I message them. We have been friends for 10 years. Just because I slept in and forgot. I understand they can be upset and say something to me but isn't this over reacting?

Thank all for answering I know it my fault for forgetting that why i rush out of bed and drove to the person house pretty much straight away after I got woken up by the call to appologise and see them. It was a breakfast/catch up which I was really looking forward to. I just got to many thing going on in my life and I need to cut things out and not try make everyone happy because in end no one happy.

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I think your friend is overreacting. But how many times have you done this to her? And how much did today mean, actually?

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joywish	Posted Jul 5th, 2009 at 7:56AM It's hard to judge. Your friend could be overreacting a bit. I don't know. Sometimes people need a bit of time to get over their emotions like anger, disappointment etc. The emotion may not always match the importance of the event itself, but everyone has their own way of processing. Sometimes it happens fast, sometimes it takes a bit of time. Rated: +2Vote for this!
COOLPENGUIN	Posted Jul 5th, 2009 at 7:27AM It depends on what kind of function they forgot! If you were supposed to help and left your friend hanging, you deserve to be ignored. If it were a baby shower, bridal shower, wedding, or anything else that would be considered one of the most important and memorable days of your friend's life, then you once again deserve to be ignored. If it were something small like having breakfast with a couple close friends, then she is over reacting. It really just depends on how important it was to her, and obviously it was, so you probably should continue apologizing because it sounds to me like this is not the first time you have left her high and dry. Rated: +2Vote for this!
koyptakh	Posted Jul 5th, 2009 at 4:40AM hi saltandpepper what did she do? was she angry? If so maybe over reacted. You sound sweet but yo owe her! Not too serious is it? :) Rated: +1Vote for this!
woodinhouse	Posted Jul 5th, 2009 at 5:03AM no, family and friends are the most important, and if this was special enough for you to have been asked to organize then you should have been responsible enough to do the job, maybe they didn't answer because they were to hurt and would have said something hurtful and were waiting until they could talk civil, message them again and then wait until they're ready to talk Rated: +1Vote for this!
GentleTouch	Posted Jul 5th, 2009 at 7:56AM Are they overreacting? That would depend. Do you display this sort of behavior often? If so no, I feel they are not over reacting. However, they could find another way expressing their anger. Once they get over the anger they will respond. Rated: +1Vote for this!
JulySunSoul	Posted Jul 5th, 2009 at 7:56AM Thats all down to how often this has happened and how important the meetup was?! I think I would be quite annoyed if I had been stood up by a mate. Still, Its not something that they should be angry at for long. So if they still carry on ignoring you then yes, I would say they were overreacting! Rated: +1Vote for this!
TouchMeNot	Posted Jul 5th, 2009 at 2:55PM No it's not. It's hurtful of you and shallow of you. When making plan it has to be thought out in every detail. If you think that you can do a ...'oh well...' apology then maybe you shouldn't be regarded as a real or close friend at all. Shame on you. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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