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Is something wrong with me because im 19 and have never had a boyfriend or even been with anyone in general?

Ive never really felt like i needed one. But it seems im the only one out of everyone i know who has never even been kissed. Im family always gets on my case about how i need one and that they worry about me. But maybe they are the ones that need to be worried about. Ive never really felt a true connection with anyone. I dont mind being by myself i actually kind of like it but they dont get that because most women aren't like that. Maybe i do have to high of standards or maybe just afraid to commit to someone. idk?

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48 Answers to "Is something wrong with me because im 19 and have never had a boyfriend or even been with anyone in general?"

  1. SaintMaj - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by SaintMaj Dec 26th, 2011 at 3:50AM

    I'm 38 and I never had a boyfriend.And there is nothing wrong with me.

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  2. deltadon - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by deltadon Dec 26th, 2011 at 4:07AM

    the juries still out on that one ;-)

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  3. SaintMaj - 36-40 years old - male

    Reply by SaintMaj Dec 26th, 2011 at 4:08AM

    I think this will turn water on my mill

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  4. daur0s - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by daur0s Dec 26th, 2011 at 5:28PM

    Absolutely not. In fact, I'd say your doing it properly. I hate the people who jump into relationships just for the sake of some rumpy pumpy and exploiting partners. I personally will not get into a relation ship until I know for sure it will work out, and it's with the right person. Why rush and make yourself miserable rather than wait for true happiness. In this area of life, it truly is whatever makes you happy that you should be doing.

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  5. MagicalStarryNights - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by MagicalStarryNights Dec 27th, 2011 at 2:55AM

    I totally agree with this. So many people are too impetuous when it comes to relationships.

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  6. calicuz - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by calicuz Dec 26th, 2011 at 4:13AM

    No, there is nothing wrong with you. The guys you know probably are interested in you but they just don't know how to let you know. They may be shy or just intimidated by your beauty. I'm told that the prettiest girls are the loneliest girls, because the guys are just too afraid of rejection that they never ask those girls out. You are young and have more time than you think you have to find that special someone to spend the rest of your life with.
    There is no such thing as having "too high of a standard" when it comes to the one you will spend the rest of your life with. Do you really want to be one of these girls that is waiting for her boyfriend to get out of jail or prison all of the time? Or do you want to be one of those women who is waiting for her husband to get home from work so the two of you can go out for dinner?

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  7. justkoz - 61-65 years old

    Posted by justkoz Dec 26th, 2011 at 3:53AM

    There are people out there that take forever to connect but you will when you are ready. Being careful is a good thing and you have been good to yourself for doing it this way.
    So many kids jump at the chances to have someone that is really bad for them. Pick someone that has a future, is smart and doesn't drink and party too much.
    Go easy and love happens when the other person is able for you to slowly see that they either are good for your not. You move on or move closer if you can communicate and have things in common.
    Love isn't easy but is like any chance we take there is can be failure too. Failing means you learned a lot and that you want to be better towards yourself the next time. Have some fun and God bless you!

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  8. bunyum - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by bunyum Dec 26th, 2011 at 3:42AM

    nope nothing's wrong with you
    in fact we're just the same and I'm turning 18
    and proud to be single haha

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  9. childcalledit - 18-21 years old

    Posted by childcalledit Dec 26th, 2011 at 3:42AM

    i ask myself the same question and i'm 21. i don't have any interest to have a boyfriend or any intimate experiences though, i don't know about you.

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  10. turtlesplash - 36-40 years old - male

    Reply by turtlesplash Dec 26th, 2011 at 4:10AM

    i lost my virginity at 21 - the funny thing is that my gf then didn't believe i was a virgin till after we actually had sex - i'm a great bluffer = ]

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  11. childcalledit - 18-21 years old

    Reply by childcalledit Dec 26th, 2011 at 4:27AM

    i'm perfectly content with being on my own without another by my side, my mom's always on my back about it too.

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  12. reperiocausa - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by reperiocausa Dec 26th, 2011 at 9:06PM

    No of course not, I'm 16 and I've never had a real boyfriend. I think its ridiculous how hardcore young girls get with relationships. I mean you're only 19. You should be living for yourself and making your dreams come true! Besides, your not giving yourself to any guy that wants you which is good. Wait for someone special:)

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  13. canoethenhike - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by canoethenhike Dec 26th, 2011 at 10:10AM

    It sounds like you just arent ready to date and you certainly dont sound interested in it. There is nothing wrong with you, there is something wrong with people trying to force you into the dating world. I do think you will find the right man for you, the good news is youre not stressing out waiting on your prince charming to arrive. Who knows, he is still learning how to put on armor.

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  14. AngelsOnFires - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by AngelsOnFires Dec 26th, 2011 at 4:07AM

    Nothings wrong with you, i got my first relationship when i was 24....

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  15. CVizion - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by CVizion Dec 27th, 2011 at 6:24AM

    19.... your fine... don't rush it :)

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  16. MagicalStarryNights - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by MagicalStarryNights Dec 27th, 2011 at 2:46AM

    Just because you are independent and do not need someone to be happy does not mean there is something wrong with you. Many women are single, independent and happy and there is NOTHING wrong with them. Tell your family to chill; if it happens, it happens. Some people just do not need a relationship to feel complete.

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  17. hopefullyhumble - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by hopefullyhumble Dec 26th, 2011 at 10:24PM

    you sound like you are more emotionally mature than most of us are or were
    don't force anything
    if someone comes into your life and is also mature emotionally
    that would be refreshing
    people rush relationships and marriage/living together way too much usually

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  18. foreveryourglrl - 36-40 years old

    Posted by foreveryourglrl Dec 26th, 2011 at 9:34PM

    OMG...something is seriously wrong with you! You're a NORMAL teenage GIRL! (if there is such a thing? = ) Get used to it....lol

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  19. tennesseecountrygirl - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by tennesseecountrygirl Dec 26th, 2011 at 9:03AM

    Don't rush, you have all the time you want. At least you will know how to stand on your own two feet, without someone needing someone right by you. Enjoy your life don't rush....

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  20. Hermey - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by Hermey Dec 26th, 2011 at 8:43AM

    I didn't date much in high school and was a v!rgin until mid college. It's not a race. When you're ready you'll find someone.

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  21. BestAsianWife - 31-35 years old

    Posted by BestAsianWife Dec 26th, 2011 at 7:22AM

    NO.... Its your choice

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  22. Garfield123456789 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by Garfield123456789 Dec 26th, 2011 at 5:43AM

    I do agree with some that have shared,just think about it you are only 19, maybe still in school or starting a job trying to get a handle on things.There is no rlue saying you have to be in a relationship at a certain age. You sound like a wise young lady that wants to get to know her self before getting tied down Good Call.

    Just be Happy with you and forget what others want for U!

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  23. prizel - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by prizel Dec 26th, 2011 at 4:44AM

    Girl You are not the only one
    i am 21 but still didn't ever have a boyfriend
    i wont mind waiting for my Mr. Love as long as possible, rather getting hooked with a looser
    Enjoy being single
    it rocks

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  24. bookerdana - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by bookerdana Dec 26th, 2011 at 3:53AM

    ITS INTERESTING THAT YOU DIDN'T SAY YOU WANTED A BOYFRIEND,JUST WHETHER THIS IS NORMAL,BUT THAN I THINK "NORMAL IS ENTIRELY OVER-RATED.IF YOU WANT TO DATE,THE ANXIETY IS UNDERSTANDABLE;IF YOU DON'T RIGHT NOW WHY WORRY?PERHAPS IN TIME YOU WILL HAVE A FIRMER GRASP ON YOUR MOTIVATIONNS AND DESIRES.GOOD LUCK IN ANY CASE

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  25. turtlesplash - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by turtlesplash Dec 26th, 2011 at 3:40AM

    Nope.

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