Kids are really smart and will know that their parents aren't happy. I think that couples who can co-parent successfully separately can make their kids' lives just as good as couples who remain together. Certainly they would be more successful than unhappy couples that stay together for the sake of their kids.
Parents should set an example for their kids. Staying with someone you're unhappy with is telling them that settling for that is OK in life. Better to teach your kids to be proactive with problems .. than to ignore them.
Thank you for BA. :)
i do not know. but this is a good question and experienced people should answer it.
Depends on if the parents despise each other or not.
i say yes definitely and i speak from experience. the arguing between my parents and the stress it caused in me and my siblings lives was a terrible enviroment to grow up under.
my memories are still vivid too. this is why i've worked so hard not to expose my own children to the strife that i witnessed growing up. thankfully me and my bf have a relationship that surpasses anything that my parents had.
It is worse for the kids when they grow up witnessing an unhealthy relationship... lots of fighting, heated arguments, disrespecting, coldness, abuse... Kids learn more from what they see then what we tell them. A child growing up in an unhealthy household learns to see that atmosphere as normal and is more likely to repeat those patterns in his or her own marriage someday. The child who grows up observing a healthy and happy marriage is more likely to hold out for a healthy relationship.
If that's the only reason that you're staying together, then NO. In my opinion, the best thing that you can do is to remain amicable, not argue in front of the kids and not say negative things about the other spouse when with the kids.