Some people believe in the "fake it till you make it" philosophy.
Change comes from within the person, and permanent change is doable.Confidence also comes from within, but it takes some positive experiences to bolster it, and that can take some time. The best thing to do in the meantime is "fake it till you make it."
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The word gain is a tricky word in that it sounds like an end result, when really it is little by little one thing at a time word.
Anthony Robbins thought so:<br />
"When I used to conduct private therapies, people would come to see me, sit down in my office and begin to tell me what their problem was. They'd say, "My problem is ..." <br />
and then they'd burst into tears, out of control. As soon as this happened, I would stand up and shout, "EXCUSE ME!" This would jolt them, and then I'd follow up with, "We haven't started yet!" Usually they responded, "Oh, I'm so sorry." And they'd immediately change their emotional states and regain control. It was hysterical to watch! These people who felt they had no control over their lives would <br />
immediately prove that they already knew exactly how to change how they felt! <br />
One of the best ways to interrupt someone's pattern is to do things they don't expect, things that are radically different from what they've experienced before. Think of some of the ways you can interrupt your own patterns. Take a moment to think up some of the most enjoyable and disruptive ways you can interrupt a pattern of being frustrated, worried, or overwhelmed. <br />
Next time you start to feel depressed, jump up, look at the sky, and yell in your most idiotic tone of voice, "H-A-L-L-E-L-U-J-A-H! My feet don't stink today!" A stupid, silly move like that will definitely shift your attention, change your state, and it will definitely change the states of everyone around you as they begin to realize that you're no longer depressed— just crazy! "
You have to ACT confident. Just keep up the act long enough it and becomes your normal behaviour.
In this area you can fake it until you make it.
watch this<br />
did you like it ? are you confident now ?