Is there any hope for me and my ex?

Good question Bebitz.. It works both ways.. opportunities come our way and after 8 years why isnt he more patient with you about this job especially during these hard economic times. As you said you were going to be transferred in 2 months. Sounds like he felt hurt and possibly rejected that you chose the job as being more important than him. It would have helped if he had spoken to you about it or given you both the opportunity to talk it through first, after 8 years surely it has to account for something. It is sad as women are expected to leave their jobs and follow the guy. Sorry, but I think if you had gone, I believe you would have become resentful in having missed a great opportunity.

I can see how he would be so angry, seeing as you had already said that you were going to be angry. And he probably was angry about it at the start. But in fairness, moving away (i dont know how far, but im presumming pretty far) is a big thing and you shouldnt be forced to do it.

Eight years is an awful pity to lose and this doesnt seem like a good reason to end things.
Hmm.. sounds tricky.

Maybe this is a case of listen to your heart? (sap)

Give him time to cool down. But really, you shouldn't have to sacrifice your career for a guy..

Talk it over with him. Long distance relationships aren't so bad if you're both up for the work..

Eight years is a long time to toss IF you were happy, and IF you love him. No way I wouldn't be at his side if I were you.