Is there ever a legitimate reason for cheating on someone?

It's only acceptable in incredibly outrageous situations, namely if the person thinks their significant other is dead and/or has been missing for like six months. Other than no, never.

Legitimate reason? I guess so, there's always a reason. I don't know who decides if it is legitimate or not. In my small experience, cheating is a good indication of little problems that became big problems. If you and your SO want to repair your relationship it can be done but it's a lot of work.

I don't know if knowing the detail helps or not. Some say it does, others not. Do what's best for you.

No, you are DEF not the one to fix it. Regardless if he thought you werent showing him enuf attention or whatever then there was still no reason whatsoever for him to cheat. you didnt do anything and he didnt voice any of that until he was caught im sure. find someone better

Ah, yeah, wanting to know the details. As if that will make it all better...I hear you. No there is no "legitimate" reason for cheating, but it is a wake up call if you want things to continue. I wish you the best in sorting this one out...

Dear, you already know the "sorid details." HE CHEATED ON YOU!
He is a fool. Don't you be one, too. Dump him quick!!

There is never a legitimate reason to cheat. If it isn't working then try to fix it, if you can't fix it then move on. cheating is never the answer.

There has never been a legitimate reason for cheating in the history of humankind, that hasn't stopped us from trying to justify that alot with a host of other horrible acts committed upon each other though.

No, there is never a reason to cheat on someone you are dating or married to.
Once a cheater, will always be a cheater, and you will probably never be able to trust him again. I know I wouldn't trust him.
It doesn't matter what his reasons were, he should have talked to you and tried to work them out instead of running off with someone else.
That's just rediculous, and I wouldn't put up with it if I were you.

You do not need to fix it!! If it is going to be fixed it should be by him. I'm not saying there isn't things that you might also need to work on in the relationship, but he is the one who went outside of the relationship. If both of you want the relationship to work then you need to forgive him on your own time. Perhaps if the relationship and this man is worth it to you try talking to a therapist on how to work past this.

oh man i feel your pain. i just found out my husband did the same thing not so long ago. it was the hardest thing i have ever been threw..
he used his cell phone and left the numbers on it to that is also how i found out. i was devestated i could not even breath when i called and she answered. then the texted were still there.. we are not living together now and i am so lonely.. i miss him so much.. we are in marriage counseling now and it is going good so far..
NO there is never a legitimate reason for stepping out of the marriage.. i can think of any none, nodda. i think if you need someone else you should be decent enough to tell your spouse first and either work it out of split up..
i love my husband enough to forgive him but that will always be a hole in my heart. if you feel you need the details don't don't ask and bring up the passed. all it will do is hurt you not him.. i am learning that in counseling that you have to let the past be the past and live for today and tomorrow.
if you love him enough to make it work i would suggest marriage counseling. and yes you will have to help fix it..it takes two to mess it up and two to fix it. i wish you luck!!

no. a cheater is a loser and a coward.

NO! NEVER!!

No. Period.

No, if you love someone and you reach a problem in the relationship you talk about it and fix the problem you don't just go out and find someone else to fix the problem you only create new ones. To say he felt like you didn't love him was not a reason to cheat on you that was just an excuse so he could move on in his life rather than tell you why he was unhappy and work out the real problem between you two.

Bad people will be judged by social law, not by individual cheating or revenge.

Yes if the spouse is in a vegetative state and will never recover like that Terri Shiavo was in.

no- there is no legitimate reason to cheat. The problem is most people do not own up to their cheating- they never look back on it and fully admit it was 100% wrong. Until they come to this point (and most don't)- there is nothing you can do about it. However you can choose to continue to love him. NEVER let him however convince you that you were at fault. When a person is cheating they are in a state of mind that says 'everything is perfect' and everything in my other world is terrible and it's all that world's fault. They are high on the adrenilen they are feeling and all the newness they are experiencing- they are NOT in love. Because true love contrary to opinion is not blind but has feet on the ground with eyes wide open. All I can say is you can choose to realize that he is doing this because he doesn't know any better and he honestly thinks it is your fault- but it is not.

I wish you all the best in the world.

PS try the love dare. If you don't know what it is, google it- it has changed the lives of millions of couples.

I think you both expected fidelity from each other when you made the commitment to each other, and its only now that you're discovering this aspect of him, that was not apparent before.
The primary challenge is the trust. Not only do you know he has been unfaithful, but also you do not trust what he tells you.
It's time to make explicit that the trust is greatly compromised, and for the relationship to continue, you and he need to discuss, with a counselor if needed, what will help re-build trust, which was taken for granted before.

There is for me. Cheating in every way means that you're bf no longer love or like you but didn't want to tell it straight from you. He cheated and he might hoped you discover it and let him go and never love him. But in your case, you still accepted and love him. Well, in every action, there always had to be a reason why one does it. Open your eyes to reality. It's a matter of choice.