If a man is physically attracted to you, he thinks about being intimate with you. He could be extremely well-behaved and try not to show signs. He could genuinely care for you and not want to say or do things that disrupt your confidence in him. And he may truly love you like a brother and be thinking very long term about having you in his life and not wanting to lose you. But if he's attracted, he still imagines the two of you being intimate...and that will slowly build tension. Better to just be honest about it and control the urges physically rather than pretend neither of you are interested.
Very difficult these platonic friendships, I am always tempted and so is the man and usually after time if we a very friendly it leads to sex.
How true. I had a "platonic" relationship with a woman whom I liked very much, but she had just left an abusive husband and was a real emotional wreck, so it was obvious this was not a long term thing. But one night we were wtaching TV, and she snuggled up to me on the couch and a bit later confessed she was incredibly horny. So I was supposed to say no? No way. We had a great night (and quite a few thereafter), but the relationship never went anywhere. Now I am married and we are still friends; she is doing better, but still doesn't have her act together fully.
A very realistic reply it always leads to sex.
Well not always. Take my situation. Not only am I very much committed to and in love with my Wife but physically she has me on such a frequent schedule were it would be unlikely for me to have the capacity to enter into a alternate physical relationship. Thus there is much to be said for keeping very busy at home for total fidelity- so yes a totally non-physical non- emotional relationship with another woman should be possible. We have been married for 24 years - and i have never - not once - ever had anything to do physically with another woman. These days - as i said - there would be no point - she gives me all I could wish for or can handle at home each morning. :-)
You are a lovely devoted and loyal husband.
yea but he's usually gay
Their are trust issues you have to deal with; while boundary must stay in place
I have endured a platonic relationship with a lovely lady called Alison; she is every mans dream and its very difficult not to show my lustful feelings for her. At first it was not an issue, but the more I got to know her the more I felt the urge for intimacy with her.
I get the impression that we are both a little more interested in one another than we appear to be, but every time I see her I find myself thinking about taking her to bed! I can`t stop seeing her as she is a family friend...so I just have to put up with the ache in my balls for her.
Get on with it she wants you.
Yep my best friend for three years in college was a woman and never were either of us tempted ever would have fecked it up !
I think it can exist. Whether it can last is a different question.
yeah, I've done it quite well actually.
Sure. Me and my bride!
No. Men and women desire to mate. Its biological.
Tell that to my bride
I have several female friends who are undoubtedly "hotties" but I value their friendship more than a quick fling..
it can be difficult at times, but i have always preferred the company of women to men. i have male on male intimacy issues stemming back from my father abandoning me. and i also don't really buy into the typical male attitudes, locker room talk, chest thumping type stuff.
and no, i'm not gay. i very much love women. i think women are smart, funny, fascinating, and beautiful, amongst other things. and i have had numerous platonic friendships with women.
sure, sometimes i've developed feelings for some of those friends, but i don't think that it's a black and white issue. i think it's certainly possible.
it's a very interesting question. thank you. take care, be well...
Numerous ? Great.
So, in a few cases, have you to hide your romantic feelings ?
sure, a few times in the past i've developed some feelings when i knew there was no reciprocity. but yeah, i kept them to myself in order to maintain the friendships, which are very important to me since i live a life of intense physical pain and loneliness.
i do have some guy friends, just not very many. i just don't relate well to other guys i guess. i'm far from "normal" so i suppose one can take my position with a grain of salt.
take care, be well...
i can completely understand that. that's where i have been able to draw the line and realize that if feeling do develop from one side and not the other to stop the advancing, don't pursue something that is not there.
most of the female friends i've had i've mostly considered as sister or motherly figures rather than romantic, which is maybe why it's a little different or easier for me to deal with some of those feelings.
thank you for your reply. take care, be well...
I'm going to run in the opposite direction the next time a guy tells me he has more female friends than I do. My ex continued to see one chick in particular who he'd fooled around with and decided to "not ruin the friendship" bullshit! If you ever hear that line just get out cos that psychopathic ***** is jealous of you and wants your man. She'll stop at nothing to sabotage your relationship and YES I'm speaking from experience :( I hate men who insist on putting their female friends before their partners, ******* grow the **** up. Grrr respect your woman dickhead unless you like your stubble faced bush pig female scrags who will sabotage any relationship you enter into out of pure jealousy :(
speaking personally, i do prefer the friendship and company of women, as i'd mentioned earlier in this thread i have male on male intimacy issues.
at the same time i would never ever put a friendship ahead of someone i loved and who loved me. point in fact with the pain that i live with daily wanting to fall in love and be in a relationship is the only thing that keeps me hanging on most days. i've yet to find that in life and it's something i want to experience before i leave this earth. desperately want to have that special someone, a soulmate. someone that you love unconditionally and are loved back in the same way. i want that so badly and it's what keeps me hanging on when nothing else does.
take care, be well...
Hey sweets hope you find it ;)
thank you for the reply and the sentiment. i hope the same for you as well.
be well, take care.... benjamin
Pretty impossible after two weeks of just being friends I would kiss her and that after 4 weeks would lead to far more intimate relationship.
Very difficult- but i've done it.
If both are straight or bi, then there's no benefit of a strictly platonic friendship.
Of course. I don't understand how anyone can think it's only always about sex between men and women.