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Is this friendship worth keeping in your opinion?

I have a friend who's pretty nice most times and generally caring. However, she does have some flaws I can't really get past, like she's the type that likes being spoiled and sometimes says things that are hurtful. For example, when we were figuring out what race we closely aligned to and she, a black girl, turned out to have East Asian ancestry based on her head shape, she seemed like she didn't like that idea. She also overheard me talking on the phone in my native language and made fun of it like it sounds like you're saying "squirrel squirrel" etc. I'm Asian, and I took offense to all that.

Another instance was we were talking about height, and she jokingly said "I'm glad there's someone that's finally shorter than me!" to me. I said there were a few people I knew that were even shorter than me, and she was like ohhh really?? that's hard to believe! you're so petite and all. There are other times when she has really gotten to me, but idk if it's worth getting upset over.

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    linklock - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by linklock Mar 12th, 2013 at 12:26AM

    The only time I think about changing a friend is when I think that friend is keeping me away from another friend who is better for me. I try to stay in touch but my spare time is not all that much.

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  1. ConfusedInCollege - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by ConfusedInCollege Mar 12th, 2013 at 12:30AM

    I'm having similar problems with my best friend. My friend is really inconsiderate and rude as far as I'm concerned but sometimes I wonder if she even realizes it. So my only advice would be to bring it up to her. Tell her it's bothering you and see what comes of it. If she's a ***** about it, drop her. But if she's really your friend, maybe she doesn't realize that her words rub you the wrong way. Like I have a tendency to say slightly racist things but with no malice intent behind it. It's simply what I was raised around and if no one had brought it to my attention, I'm sure I would have hurt a lot more of my friends feelings. Give her the benefit of the doubt until you speak with her. It might be a friendship worth saving

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  2. MzNutCase - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by MzNutCase Mar 12th, 2013 at 12:30AM

    Be quicker with a good comeback, she said "I'm glad there's someone that's finally shorter than me!" You could of probably said something like "I'm glad there's someone that's finally uglier than me!" lol or something like that. gl

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  3. AmyL0ve - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by AmyL0ve Mar 12th, 2013 at 12:27AM

    Just try to do the same with her. But try not to offense. Say it jokingly. May be then she will understand what you endure..

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  4. tommy401 - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by tommy401 Mar 12th, 2013 at 12:24AM

    not really cause if you girl can't see that it just opion , do you girl fight a lot on thing ?

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  5. mrtexasguy - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by mrtexasguy Mar 12th, 2013 at 12:24AM

    Sounds you like either need to tell her the effect of her words (she's not a fuc'kin mind reader) have on you, or you need to ditch the *****.

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  6. Bat9irl - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by Bat9irl Mar 12th, 2013 at 12:22AM

    she sounds shallow

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