Is this normal?

not cool.
~thumbs down~
he's an ***
she's an idiot
you got it figured out smart girl!

no not normal u should have slapped him...

find another friend.

My point of view: No, I don't think its normal, for us to have to put up with it. It may be "normal" to them. My own cousins husband kept slapping me in the A$$ in front of her, then put his arm around me... I don't flirt with anyone, I'm married, she is my family, her husband is a pig... So when he put his arm around me, I pulled away and elbowed him in the chest. She said, DONT EVER HURT MY HUSBAND AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!
Whatever......... I don't feel comfortable around these kind of people who sit there and watch their husbands be pigs. I don't think its just you. They are just the way they are.

I make a point to stay away from my cousin.

It doesn't rally matter what goes on between the, Bottom line is, if YOU are uncomfortable, you were right to stop it. And you weren't being dramatic. I'm surprised you didn't kick him in the junk long ago.

it is very abnormal

There's something sociopathic going on there -- I'm not a shrink, and I don't even play one on TV, but it seems as though there may be one of several scenarios playing out here. 1) She's playing along to keep him happy and she knows that being ballsy and outrageous are something he enjoys, she needs him for whatever reason(s), and she can't do anything about it; 2) She was exposed to such behavior or even abused for long enough at some point in the past, that she doesn't consider such boorishness outlandish, gut-level, even though they've both undoubtedly been told clearly that his behavior is unacceptable to most people; 3) It's a shared joke between them -- he gets off seeing what he can get away with, especially with her watching appreciatively, and it turns them on later when they can laugh about his out-of-bounds behavior, and maybe even your confusion and outrage about it, since he got away with it.

You have two choices (and probably a lot of variations), and they both have to do with setting your boundaries: A) Serve warning the next time you're in a setting where he can make further attempts, before he even can start (make the rules clear to him, and her: "I need to feel comfortable and safe around you two. Keep a respectable distance, mind your manners, and save your bawdy behavior for the boys or some ***** club. If you don't, I'll be out of here, and that will be the end of our friendship. Do I make myself clear?" Make sure he answers respectfully in the positive, with no smarmy or slimy innuendo, and if he can't, tell them you feel sorry for them both, and leave and keep them away unless they let you know that they've had some serious therapy and make amends (not just an apology); B) If the situation occurs too rapidly to lower their expectations, and he starts his antics, set your boundaries by simply saying "NO! Got that?" and if that's a challenge to him and he gets in your space, tell them that you don't appreciate being the butt of their joke (you are, you know), that he's making ***** out of all three of you, tell them you have too much self-respect to endure his antics EVER AGAIN, make as strong a parting gesture as you think will not provoke trouble, but will show them you mean what you say (possibly a very hard slap on the face, but probably just gather your things and leave, and tell them your acquaintance is at an end (what friendship?). say "GOOD BYE!" forcefully, so they'll know not to expect you to be around any more, and WALK out. Don't look back or it'll show weak resolve and ruin the message (and you might turn into a pillar of salt, heh, heh).

Make it stick; if either one of them attempts to contact you, say you're sorry, but they had their chance, and you don't have time for people like them, and if necessary, go to the police and get a Temporary Restraining Order (you'll have to get a permanent one in a week or two, signed by a judge), ordering them to leave you alone and stay a certain distance away from you. If they violate it, all you have to do is call the police and they'll a free tour of the local jail.

Finally, remember this: losing them as acquaintances is not losing a friendship, it's gaining the time to make some real friends. There are lots of people in this world who know their manners, societal norms, and enjoy mutual respect, and you can find them in a lot of ways -- social networking abounds in our society - clubs, service organizations, churches, internet, even matching services. With the latter, you have to beware and qualify both the service and the matches, but with a little perserverence, you'll have NICE friends who really value you, and are glad you're their friend, too.

No it's way out of line ,the person has problems and needs help,other people are covering up for him.

harmless flirting ...how many coctails had he usually had.....did you try explaining you we're uncomfortable with it ?? if his wife ain't jealous he's probably just a harmless flirt - likely a little lubed up - you should take it as a compliment in bad taste and SAY something w/o being confrontational.....sounds like thats the case to me - but i could be WRONG - if so - he's an assshole - but it's not easy to find good friends - try talking to him WHEN HE"S SOBER..... and be gracious if you get a meek appology....

Sounds like they are swingers.

He's a first class jerk. Stay away from him. You've already made it clear to him that you don't want that kind of behavior from him. You have nothing to feel guilty or ashamed of.

Thats is just totally OUT OF ORDER...
Your friend is obviously so used to getting treated this way, she does not know what is demeaning.
This a**hole basically called you a *****, trying to pay you for sexual favours..
You are not being dramatic, your having self respect...

How well do you know your friend? I mean really know her? It does sound like maybe they were wanting to see if you were interested in swinging with them.
I think your friend is not a very good one. Her husband is a pig.
You would be much better off to totally forget them and not see either of them again.

no...............not at all