Is this normal?

Recently my adoptive parents have gone through a messy seperation & I was tossed in the middle. The exact same thing happend in my first family (my bio family): Mom runs off with another man & dad falls to pieces. I have no other family that I can lean on, sooo in a way my counsellor is kind of filling in the void (appropriately).

Now whenever things get out of control, I feel like running to the counsellor is my safety net. I get anxiety attacks whenever I can't get into see the counsellor or I have to cancel an appointment. I feel without my counsellor I would just be an emotional wreck.

Is this normal for kids to feel like this??

Thanks for the R&R guys

Its hard to explain things to them: my dad has depression, & my mom is bipolar & coming off the meds ...at the wrong time, as the doctor says.

Posted 2 months ago

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Yes it is.You need time to get stronger and handle the situation by yourself. If you have help now, use it.
You seem intelligent and mature. Give yourself some time.You will make it through this.

Posted 2 months ago

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SamOnHisSoapbox	Posted Sep 5th, 2009 at 3:57AM Freakishly normal in fact ... you are far more together than nearly all the participants in this Greek tradgedy. Rated: +5Vote for this!
Fourandahalfdays	Posted Sep 5th, 2009 at 3:57AM It doesn't sound like we are dealing with adults at all. I agree with Tragityanne Rated: +3Vote for this!
AuthenticJulz	Posted Sep 4th, 2009 at 12:27PM Just know that grown ups are wacked. Just know it is not your fault. If you get anxiety attacks you need to learn some breathing techniques. Also maybe get some chalomile and lavender and sniff this or drink it in a tea. If anyone trys to give you pills for your anxiety DO NOT take them unless they are just vitamins. You can actually try to find some stress vitamins at your local vitamin shop or grocery store. Also make sure your counselour knows what is going on. Also get involved in any type of after school activities so you have something to take your mind off you situations and give you something to look forward to. I hope things get better for you. Rated: +3Vote for this!
robyn	Posted Sep 5th, 2009 at 3:57AM wow. your family situation is a nightmare. you have sooo been let down. you are frightfully normal. more normal than i would have been as a child had i been in your situation. [[[hugs]]]] i wish i could do more. Rated: +3Vote for this!
TrgdyAnn	Posted Sep 5th, 2009 at 3:58AM It's sad that so-called 'Adults' put their kids in that situation! i'm hugging you Rated: +2Vote for this!
ELEGANCE	Posted Sep 4th, 2009 at 12:21AM ohhh that's sad but I think you are smart. Smart enough to reach help when you needed it. Take what you can and I would speak to your parents about how they have made you feel. I bet they don't even realize how they have hurt you and how this has affected you. It will get better be patient and in the mean time, you keep seeing that counsellor but it is very much normal. Good Luck! Rated: +2Vote for this!
EMI79	Posted Sep 5th, 2009 at 3:58AM yes it is. I am so sorry when I read your story. But believe me with time you will learn how to stand on your own.... I the main time , try to keep yourself busy, do sport, meet friends.... dont be alone much... you will start thinking too much and it will make you down... keep your head up- even when the road is hard - never give up.... feel free to write me. take care Rated: +2Vote for this!
lifeseemstobealla bouttv	Posted Sep 5th, 2009 at 3:58AM everybody needs somebody, there's nothin' abnormal about that. so i would say you're normal. Rated: +2Vote for this!
Lookin4the1now	Posted Sep 4th, 2009 at 12:28PM It depends on your age. You can't spend your entire life going to a counselor every time a situation occurs that you haven't dealt with before. Some day you will have to grow up and make decisions by yourself. Consider all the facts and try to come up with some possible outcomes and how probable the outcomes are. If the most probable outcomes seem to be of a serious and permanent nature, then seek advice from the counselor. It might not be the end of the world. If you think it is, by all means, call the counselor. That type of thinking and logic are normal. Rated: +2Vote for this!

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