Is this Normal?

I have been with the same man for such a long time(we were supposed to get married in March), and TODAY we came to the conclusion that we didn't want to be together anymore. I wasn't so much unhappy w/ him (actually not at all unhappy), more "used" to him i think. Comfortable. Complacent maybe. But why do i feel relieved? I feel free...and only a tiny speck sad, but also excited. I love him dearly, but is this normal???

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It makes perfect sense to me that comfortable wasn't good enough. Sounds like the excitement was gone. I think anytime you feel relief getting away from a person, the person is not right for you.

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JoeDeGhetto	Posted Nov 4th, 2009 at 12:33AM Maybe you are taking love for granted? So many think that love is all lights and glitter and non stop action, when in reality it is the very thing you are avoiding ... closeness. Hopefuly you two arent making a big mistake. Jazz it all up enough and its gone forever. Rated: +2Vote for this!
sharossody	Posted Nov 4th, 2009 at 2:04AM I think you may have turned the last page in that book.... build another bridge and get over it.. plenty of time to meet new people... good luck. Rated: +2Vote for this!
CrossEyedMary	Posted Nov 4th, 2009 at 12:16AM The words 'normal' and 'relationship' do not ever belong in the same sentence Rated: +2Vote for this!
wanderingbutnotlo st	Posted Nov 4th, 2009 at 1:02AM actually, it's perfectly normal, you grew bored with each other but you were so comfortable in your typical rhythm that neither of you wanted to be the one to break it Rated: +2Vote for this!
Yohanna	Posted Nov 4th, 2009 at 1:00AM could be just cold feet. Rated: +1Vote for this!
ukko	Posted Nov 3rd, 2009 at 11:49PM I guess your time is up...and you finished your realtonship...keep in touch...like friends... Rated: +1Vote for this!
chanal1	Posted Nov 3rd, 2009 at 11:52PM I guess you hit the 'Itch' year.... Rated: +1Vote for this!
durbanpoison	Posted Nov 3rd, 2009 at 11:58PM nothing is normal... and i didn't even read the question! Rated: +1Vote for this!
justMeeka	Posted Nov 4th, 2009 at 12:02AM normal is just a setting on a washing machine Rated: +1Vote for this!
KiwigirlAnj	Posted Nov 4th, 2009 at 12:03AM when one door closes, another one opens. that's the feeling you are experiencing , anticipation. you two sound mature enough to love and let go, so good luck to you both. Rated: +1Vote for this!
TheRealWoman	Posted Nov 4th, 2009 at 12:07AM "There is no such, thing in life, as normal."- Morrissey I think you will always love each other, but it is great that you have discovered that you are not In Love before the marriage. On that note, may you be both be blessed with another love soon and remain friends. Rated: +1Vote for this!
waterdroplet	Posted Nov 4th, 2009 at 12:52AM normal is a very weird term with how everyone uses it but what you described sounds good to me! Rated: +1Vote for this!
guru4u	Posted Nov 4th, 2009 at 12:52AM Your sence of freedom is coming on thick and fast there LOL 1st probation now the bf Rated: +1Vote for this!

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